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Why am I being a dick?
Okay, long story short. I’ve been married 18 years.
I’ve not been great. I’ve always been in to open relationship. I’ve cheated...
My wife has stayed with me. Twice now. She truly believes I just like sex, and that I’m not really interested in another relationship. All true. I also believe she has lower self esteem and makes her stay too. (Hate saying that).
I have an old friend that one thing lead to another and with my wife’s blessing (and my encouragement too) we’ve had sex on average once a few months for a few years now.
I’ve encouraged my wife to do the same. We’ve had a couple 3 somes but nothing major.
I’ve encouraged her to go with a couple guys and finally she did. Not attracted to him but liked the attention and finally did have sex with him. She’s done it a few times. All saying meh. But okay. I get a tad jelous, but he’s no threat.
About 3 years ago we met a couple and my wife had a 3 some with them, but she didn’t want sex, just the girl.
That couple split up. They are about 7 years younger than us.
The guy has been flirting with my wife and with my blessing, I said go for it.
Last Friday they met up while I stayed home. She was gone almost 4 hours, and while I waited, didn’t text or tried not to worry. Then my wife texted me. Said she was out having a drink with a friend. I expressed anger for being gone so long, fear it was more than sex. Then she came clean and said the having a drink was a lie. Said she new id be upset she was gone so long, but lost track of time because it was so much fun.
He’s a great looking, fit, single dude. She’s attracted to him. She wants to go back. I’m being jealous and bitchy and she just throws stuff I’ve done back at me. But in the mean time tells me to trust her. As I should. They chat a lot. And have since Friday.
Why does this one bother me? I fear with her tendency to have lower self esteem, this guy says all the right things. He’s single, has nothing to lose. Fear she could get wrapped up quick.
But at the same time, I enjoy it on my end and prevent it from being wrapped up. She’s also married.
My wife loved it. Wants to go back. I’m being a dick about it. Yeah she lied, apologized and was fearful I’d be mad. But said it took a while to get over awkwardness of first time. I can understand that too.
Why am I being a dick? It turns me on most of the time, but then it’s stuck in my head too.
Advice.
Okay, long story short. I’ve been married 18 years.
I’ve not been great. I’ve always been in to open relationship. I’ve cheated...
My wife has stayed with me. Twice now. She truly believes I just like sex, and that I’m not really interested in another relationship. All true. I also believe she has lower self esteem and makes her stay too. (Hate saying that).
I have an old friend that one thing lead to another and with my wife’s blessing (and my encouragement too) we’ve had sex on average once a few months for a few years now.
I’ve encouraged my wife to do the same. We’ve had a couple 3 somes but nothing major.
I’ve encouraged her to go with a couple guys and finally she did. Not attracted to him but liked the attention and finally did have sex with him. She’s done it a few times. All saying meh. But okay. I get a tad jelous, but he’s no threat.
About 3 years ago we met a couple and my wife had a 3 some with them, but she didn’t want sex, just the girl.
That couple split up. They are about 7 years younger than us.
The guy has been flirting with my wife and with my blessing, I said go for it.
Last Friday they met up while I stayed home. She was gone almost 4 hours, and while I waited, didn’t text or tried not to worry. Then my wife texted me. Said she was out having a drink with a friend. I expressed anger for being gone so long, fear it was more than sex. Then she came clean and said the having a drink was a lie. Said she new id be upset she was gone so long, but lost track of time because it was so much fun.
He’s a great looking, fit, single dude. She’s attracted to him. She wants to go back. I’m being jealous and bitchy and she just throws stuff I’ve done back at me. But in the mean time tells me to trust her. As I should. They chat a lot. And have since Friday.
Why does this one bother me? I fear with her tendency to have lower self esteem, this guy says all the right things. He’s single, has nothing to lose. Fear she could get wrapped up quick.
But at the same time, I enjoy it on my end and prevent it from being wrapped up. She’s also married.
My wife loved it. Wants to go back. I’m being a dick about it. Yeah she lied, apologized and was fearful I’d be mad. But said it took a while to get over awkwardness of first time. I can understand that too.
Why am I being a dick? It turns me on most of the time, but then it’s stuck in my head too.
Advice.
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