I'm actually reaching out for advice. I have a very healthy spontaneous relationship with a new partner. Communication is good. Comparability is top notch. But there's an elephant in the room.
She sufferred extreme childhood sexual abuse that resulted in physical scaring and some emotional issues which don't seem to exist with me. She chalks it up to me having a "gentle soul". She's bisexual but the first male partner she had was abusive and they never engaged in sexual intercourse. She's been with women ever since. There has never been any penetrative play.
I am an experienced, kind, and conscientious lover but I'm gonna admit, I think I'm a bit out of my death here and would like to know if anyone can point me to resources for having such a partner or has advice from their own situation. She doesn't need mental help resources, shes getting everything she needs in that regard but this issue is a big one. Both of us have admitted to not knowing how to approach it.
She sufferred extreme childhood sexual abuse that resulted in physical scaring and some emotional issues which don't seem to exist with me. She chalks it up to me having a "gentle soul". She's bisexual but the first male partner she had was abusive and they never engaged in sexual intercourse. She's been with women ever since. There has never been any penetrative play.
I am an experienced, kind, and conscientious lover but I'm gonna admit, I think I'm a bit out of my death here and would like to know if anyone can point me to resources for having such a partner or has advice from their own situation. She doesn't need mental help resources, shes getting everything she needs in that regard but this issue is a big one. Both of us have admitted to not knowing how to approach it.