Triad ?

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I just wanted to take this time To say a BIG thank you to all that have commented and even commented again It means a lot to myself and My future self thanks you as well, I read each and everyone and appreciate them all and look forward to more to come.

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rbr
 
Hi rbr,

A triad is a common concept in the poly world, but a rare reality. You seem to be on the brink of a ready-made MFF triad, you have a relationship with two HBBs who are already in love with each other. That is tremendously lucky, I can see why you would want to pursue it.

Regarding your concerns. You feel that if they are closed, you should also be closed. I venture that you could technically be open, that is you are open to other opportunities if they present themselves to you, but you don't have to be actively searching for such opportunities. Sort of a de facto closed on your part. I am not telling you that this is how you should handle the situation, but perhaps it's something to consider. As to the occasional info the girls want to keep from each other, I see that as part of their relationship with each other, and as such, it is for them to worry about, I don't think you are obligated to worry about it.

So what's the status with their other relationships? Are they going to discard those relationships so that they can be closed with you? Are they going to move so that they can live closer to (or with) you? or is this going to continue to be a long-distance relationship even after Covid goes away? Your answers to these questions may affect how you'll handle the situation.

Good luck, and please keep us posted.
Sincerely,
Kevin T.

Hi Kevin

It does seem like the ideal ready made scenario and the fact we all get along so well certainly helps that.

You make some very good points regarding being a de facto closed That is a very good suggestion and is exactly why I appreciate all suggestions,

Regarding there current relationships it is something with time they they admit they want to distance from therefore becoming closed they did ask my opinion which was I a happy for them to choose what they want, Its not my choice to make. and as typing that it dawned on me that it's also my choice to make for myself.

In relation to the LDR
If long term things were to work out then a sea change would be considered, but short term post covid I am happy to fly to there location although 2 days flight for me there is no huge risk in regards to me turning up there and all is not what it is, For $100 I fly up to Canada and visit my mother. so like I say not going to be a deal breaker.

Thanks For the suggestions
 
I am sorry, this sounds like a scam or a fake situation. At best.

At worst, it sounds like an incest cult or something you don't want to get anywhere near.

Please tell me the two women aren't sisters themselves???

Are they telling you that the need you to "rescue" them from this household/cult where all these young women, who were raised with incest/childhood abuse, have one Daddy Dom taking of them all? If they are happy with that kind of arrangement, why do they want to leave? If they are unhappy with it, why do they want to replicate the same situation with you?

Don't give them any money. Not even air fare or funds for an "emergency."
 
Hi rbr,

It sounds like the situation will continue to be long-distance for the time being ... but maybe eventually they will want to extract themselves from their current situation? I would suggest you do open on your end for the time being, and let them know you are okay with it if they open on their end too. Their choice, closed or open.

Regards,
Kevin T.
 
I am sorry, this sounds like a scam or a fake situation. At best.

At worst, it sounds like an incest cult or something you don't want to get anywhere near.

Please tell me the two women aren't sisters themselves???

Are they telling you that the need you to "rescue" them from this household/cult where all these young women, who were raised with incest/childhood abuse, have one Daddy Dom taking of them all? If they are happy with that kind of arrangement, why do they want to leave? If they are unhappy with it, why do they want to replicate the same situation with you?

Don't give them any money. Not even air fare or funds for an "emergency."

They are not related to each other but have grown up last 10yrs or so being close, They defiantly are not held captive and are free to leave there situation at there own will, they do imply that they would like to move on at some point maybe so they can be center of attention who knows.
I have not sent and have not been asked to forward and sort of funds at all I have made that point clear.
 
Hi rbr,

It sounds like the situation will continue to be long-distance for the time being ... but maybe eventually they will want to extract themselves from their current situation? I would suggest you do open on your end for the time being, and let them know you are okay with it if they open on their end too. Their choice, closed or open.

Regards,
Kevin T.

Another good suggestion thanks Kevin
 
If and when I go and visit, there will be no real loss if things don't work out. Either the women and I will have a good time. or not. My mum's going to get to see her little boy for a longer duration.

Do you have issues with "Mommy"? It sounds a bit weird for a man in his 40s to call himself his mum's little boy. Is this why you can relate to these women who have incest issues? I'm just wondering.


I'll clarify here as much as I can. Yes, they live with 4-6 other girls.

"Girls?" Are some under the age of 18?

They are all treated equally by one male (their Daddy Dom), and they all currently have sex with each other, but not at one time, and not every night. There is a schedule for that.

Lucky man, lol. I doubt the truth of that. We get men coming to this board talking about having harems, and they turn out to be trolls writing fantasy erotica.

The above had my head spinning. But I wasn't introduced to all truths at first.

Forgive me for being somewhat vague in some answers, but privacy must be #1.

There is no way anyone here can identify you in Australia, and these women in Canada. We just need the facts to be clear, in order to give proper advice. We don't want to waste our time or yours.

The two women wish to eventually break away from the house. They are not forced to stay. They are free to come and go as they please.

Obviously, Covid has some say.

It sure does! I would guess we are a good year away from comprehensive testing and an available vaccine, if not much longer. Just think about that as you build your cloud castles regarding relationships with 2 women with troubled pasts, who live on the opposite side of the world. I highly recommend you seek women near you. This is all just fun and games online. Don't get your hopes up.

Enjoy it for what it is, a masturbatory fantasy, some kind of connection, but don't count on it as a real life scenario.
Regarding financial dependence on me: I was upfront from the beginning, I'm no millionaire. They know full well the only support they will get is the employer that pays them. I promise to give them all the love and care in the world, but cash ain't included with that.

Don't make promises! "All the love and care in the world" promised to 2 women with incest abuse issues and you haven't even met them yet? I wouldn't promise all the "love and care in the world" to a person I'd been dating in real life for 6 months, much less a cyber fling of 2-3 months.

Be real. What are their incomes now? You offered to send them money to "go out." (By the way, who is "going out" now? I don't think you can "go out" in many parts of Canada, this is, a night out with dinner, drinks, dancing, a show, or whatever.) Sure, they might have turned down that offer right now.

But if (a big if) they were to move all the way from Canada to Australia to be with you, and assuming they have low incomes now, since they can't afford a night out, would you be considering letting them live with you rent free when they first came to a new country, with no jobs and not knowing anyone but you?

That's just one thing to consider.

Sure, if you want to wait a year or three until Covid is under control, just typing away and masturbating to these women who are survivors of (or still participating in?) incest, it's your right. But why? Why not go seek a healthy woman who won't be an emotional basketcase? Beware of White Knight syndrome. (Look that term up.) (Look up sugar daddy while you're at it.)

One more thing: you say you "love" these 2 women. You don't even know them. You won't know them until you've met irl and have dated for a year. And triads are hard to do. They are the hardest form of polyamory. It seems to me that, as a vanilla guy, you're taking on a world of trouble for very little guarantee of success.
 
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Do you have issues with "Mommy"? It sounds a bit weird for a man in his 40s to call himself his mum's little boy. Is this why you can relate to these women who have incest issues? I'm just wondering.

LOL defiantly no mummy issues that is just my sense of humor at work. I grew out of nappy's along time ago. my mother left when I was 17 in her eye's i will always be her little boy


"Girls?" Are some under the age of 18?

That's me using bad English they are all certainly over 18 from what i have been told so they are women.

Lucky man, lol. I doubt the truth of that. We get men coming to this board talking about having harems, and they turn out to be trolls writing fantasy erotica.



There is no way anyone here can identify you in Australia, and these women in Canada. We just need the facts to be clear, in order to give proper advice. We don't want to waste our time or yours.

The vague part related t the Incest part so all info as i know it is now contained within the past messages.

It sure does! I would guess we are a good year away from comprehensive testing and an available vaccine, if not much longer. Just think about that as you build your cloud castles regarding relationships with 2 women with troubled pasts, who live on the opposite side of the world. I highly recommend you seek women near you. This is all just fun and games online. Don't get your hopes up.

Enjoy it for what it is, a masturbatory fantasy, some kind of connection, but don't count on it as a real life scenario.

Like i've said at some point if it's all a hoax it will be lesson learnt but ill never be able to say I haven't had fun along the way.

Don't make promises! "All the love and care in the world" promised to 2 women with incest abuse issues and you haven't even met them yet? I wouldn't promise all the "love and care in the world" to a person I'd been dating in real life for 6 months, much less a cyber fling of 2-3 months.

Be real. What are their incomes now? You offered to send them money to "go out." (By the way, who is "going out" now? I don't think you can "go out" in many parts of Canada, this is, a night out with dinner, drinks, dancing, a show, or whatever.) Sure, they might have turned down that offer right now.

But if (a big if) they were to move all the way from Canada to Australia to be with you, and assuming they have low incomes now, since they can't afford a night out, would you be considering letting them live with you rent free when they first came to a new country, with no jobs and not knowing anyone but you?

That's just one thing to consider.
To be clear they never asked me for money as a gesture i offered and there were reasons for that as in my mind it was a bit of a test to see if they would accept it as then alarm bells would certainly start to go off. but it was flatly declined so i did get a little reassurance from that.

Sure, if you want to wait a year or three until Covid is under control, just typing away and masturbating to these women who are survivors of (or still participating in?) incest, it's your right. But why? Why not go seek a healthy woman who won't be an emotional basketcase? Beware of White Knight syndrome. (Look that term up.) (Look up sugar daddy while you're at it.)

One more thing: you say you "love" these 2 women. You don't even know them. You won't know them until you've met irl and have dated for a year. And triads are hard to do. They are the hardest form of polyamory. It seems to me that, as a vanilla guy, you're taking on a world of trouble for very little guarantee of success.
Love and In love are two different things for me so yes i do love them in my word's but certainly are not in love with them that could only ever come with time and personal contact.


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