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Magickal

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Hi, this is my first post. I am not sure how to label the relationship I am in, but I am hoping to figure it out and seen if it can work. I am female dating a guy who has told me from the beginning about one other girlfriend he has. I was OK with it and I am usually present when he talks to her on the phone and everything. Unfortunately when he makes plans to see her, he dodges interacting with me and gives me excuses. I would do better if I got the truth, because its OK with me. how do I proceed?
 
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How long have you been with this guy? Why are you present when he talks to her? Do you live together? When you say he doesn't inform you about his plans with his other gf, what do you mean? He won't let you know what time of the day or week he is going to be on a date with her?

Would you feel more comfortable if he (or you) left the room when he chatted with his other gf? Do they need more privacy?

Do you all live separately? Does he do a good job giving you each enough time to meet your desires for couple time? What is the actual problem here?
 
Unfortunately when he makes plans to see her, he dodges interacting with me and gives me excuses. I would do better if I got the truth, because its OK with me. how do I proceed?
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I don't understand.

Are you saying he pretends you aren't there when he's making plans with her? So you are wondering if she even knows about you?


Whatever it is you want to ask him about? Go ahead and just ask him directly.

Galagirl
 
Hello Magickal,

It sounds like your boyfriend is being evasive about his other girlfriend, like when he makes plans with her, he pretends like he didn't do that, and instead he tells you some other reason (excuse) why he can't be with you at the time he planned (with the other girlfriend). And you just want him to be honest that he can't see you at that time because he's made plans with her. Am I understanding that correctly? If so, you need to talk to him, and tell him, "Honey, it bothers me when you make plans with her, but then pretend like you didn't do that. I don't mind you having another girlfriend, it's the dishonesty that bothers me. Please admit to me that you made plans with her when that's what you did. I promise I will not be angry."

I hope that's helpful, give it a try.
Sincerely,
Kevin T.
 
Magickal said:
Hi, this is my first post. I am not sure how to label the relationship I am in, but I am hoping to figure it out and seen if it can work. I am female dating a guy who has told me from the beginning about one other girlfriend he has. I was OK with it and I am usually present when he talks to her on the phone and everything. Unfortunately when he makes plans to see her, he dodges interacting with me and gives me excuses. I would do better if I got the truth, because its OK with me. how do I proceed?
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Date me instead? But more seriously ...
 
I'm not sure what this means either. Are you saying he talks to her (on the phone I presume) in front of you, but avoids talking to you when he's out with her? Or does he just avoid telling you about his plans with her?
 
Sounds like your are the mistress and he has a monogamous relationship with another woman and thats why he dodges you when hes with her.
 
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