unsureduckling
New member
hello everyone! i am new to this forum so forgive me if someone has posted a similar story.
context; i have been seeing this person for about a half a year now, and when we started dating i knew they were poly and i, at the time, had never considered it for myself. they have another partner that they’d been seeing prior to me, but it’s never been an issue and i like their other partner (in a platonic way) but sometimes i wonder if the other partner likes me? E, my partner, moved out of their old apartment and into an apartment with their other partner, Sara, and made it seem like it wouldn’t be a super long term thing, i even helped them move in.
the situation right now is that something has changed within the last two weeks that has been giving me a lot of anxiety and i don’t know how to approach it. we always would text, send rather long messages, and just generally have fun talking to each other but lately they hardly ever reply or reach out and we don’t see each other nearly as often (maybe 1 time a week in comparison to 2-4 times a week). i thought maybe it was because E was busy with school (they went back to get their masters) but even when i do get to spend time with them i notice that they will still text Sara quite often which really hurt me because it feels like the little amount of time i have with them doesn’t matter enough to them. the other day they were staying here for the night and i thought they might stay another day because they were here until it was later, but they abruptly said they were going to leave soon and Sara came to pick them up to go do something. i think they knew that i knew that was what was happening because they tried to like say goodbye and were acting slightly strange like they were trying to make it okay and i was trying really hard to show that i wasn’t hurt because i wasn’t sure if it was something to be hurt by. it just has really been hurting me knowing that they live with Sara now and see her all the time but the little time they spend with me doesn’t even feel like they want to be there anymore.
i am new to poly relationships, and i don’t have any other partners, so i don’t really know what to do here. is it wrong for me to feel this way? should i say something? does the change in their attitude mean that maybe they just don’t have time with school and their other partner so it could be coming to an end? any advice helps. thank you.
context; i have been seeing this person for about a half a year now, and when we started dating i knew they were poly and i, at the time, had never considered it for myself. they have another partner that they’d been seeing prior to me, but it’s never been an issue and i like their other partner (in a platonic way) but sometimes i wonder if the other partner likes me? E, my partner, moved out of their old apartment and into an apartment with their other partner, Sara, and made it seem like it wouldn’t be a super long term thing, i even helped them move in.
the situation right now is that something has changed within the last two weeks that has been giving me a lot of anxiety and i don’t know how to approach it. we always would text, send rather long messages, and just generally have fun talking to each other but lately they hardly ever reply or reach out and we don’t see each other nearly as often (maybe 1 time a week in comparison to 2-4 times a week). i thought maybe it was because E was busy with school (they went back to get their masters) but even when i do get to spend time with them i notice that they will still text Sara quite often which really hurt me because it feels like the little amount of time i have with them doesn’t matter enough to them. the other day they were staying here for the night and i thought they might stay another day because they were here until it was later, but they abruptly said they were going to leave soon and Sara came to pick them up to go do something. i think they knew that i knew that was what was happening because they tried to like say goodbye and were acting slightly strange like they were trying to make it okay and i was trying really hard to show that i wasn’t hurt because i wasn’t sure if it was something to be hurt by. it just has really been hurting me knowing that they live with Sara now and see her all the time but the little time they spend with me doesn’t even feel like they want to be there anymore.
i am new to poly relationships, and i don’t have any other partners, so i don’t really know what to do here. is it wrong for me to feel this way? should i say something? does the change in their attitude mean that maybe they just don’t have time with school and their other partner so it could be coming to an end? any advice helps. thank you.