Hi everyone
So I wanted to get some opinions and advice about my current situation. I'm in a wonderful relationship with my amazing gf/best friend/mother of my children, and I am head over heels for her in all aspects of the life we have built for ourselves. About a year ago I opened up to her and told her that I am polyamorous, she did not take this very well and tensions rose for a short time. I didn't want to push her or make her upset again so I let the new knowledge simmer for awhile. And things were great again, until about a month ago when I decided to bring it up again. We had a better conversation about it and what it means to me and my views of a poly lifestyle. Things are still good between us and she accepts that I am polyamorous. But. If we delve into the talk she feels that I have to be dissatisfied in our relationship in some way, or she worries that I would cast her aside to explore my new found relationship, or leave completely. I try to reassure her that I'm not going to leave and I don't want to do anything without her permission. Her next option did frustrate me a little. Which was I had the option to leave and be free to explore myself and she would wait for me... but I don't want to even think about leaving I brought this to her as something I would like to do together. She is more sexually experienced than myself and I feel like her previous bad experience that ended her previous relationship is scaring her to think that any experience with me would have the same outcome (previous experience was not poly related but in the sexual exploration realm) I just don't know how else I can assure her that I want to be with her forever as she does me with a possible 3rd if we could ever find a 3rd even. But any time we talk in depth about it I get shut out and the open discussion circles back around to said bad experience.
So I wanted to get some opinions and advice about my current situation. I'm in a wonderful relationship with my amazing gf/best friend/mother of my children, and I am head over heels for her in all aspects of the life we have built for ourselves. About a year ago I opened up to her and told her that I am polyamorous, she did not take this very well and tensions rose for a short time. I didn't want to push her or make her upset again so I let the new knowledge simmer for awhile. And things were great again, until about a month ago when I decided to bring it up again. We had a better conversation about it and what it means to me and my views of a poly lifestyle. Things are still good between us and she accepts that I am polyamorous. But. If we delve into the talk she feels that I have to be dissatisfied in our relationship in some way, or she worries that I would cast her aside to explore my new found relationship, or leave completely. I try to reassure her that I'm not going to leave and I don't want to do anything without her permission. Her next option did frustrate me a little. Which was I had the option to leave and be free to explore myself and she would wait for me... but I don't want to even think about leaving I brought this to her as something I would like to do together. She is more sexually experienced than myself and I feel like her previous bad experience that ended her previous relationship is scaring her to think that any experience with me would have the same outcome (previous experience was not poly related but in the sexual exploration realm) I just don't know how else I can assure her that I want to be with her forever as she does me with a possible 3rd if we could ever find a 3rd even. But any time we talk in depth about it I get shut out and the open discussion circles back around to said bad experience.