My wife and I want a relationship that is maybe less than what some would call true Poly and more than just an occasional date. We want to be clear so we are respectful to the Poly community and also so we don’t send the wrong signal. We want less than being immersed in your children’s lives or your finances but we want a long term relationship that is built on consent and mutual respect. We are fairly new at this and find it difficult to put ourselves in a certain category.
What to call yourself if you are somewhere between poly and ENM?
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Check out our Golden Nuggets section for much more about open marriage/polyamory basics. You can design ethical-non-monogamy any way you want, as a swinger, as fully polyamorous (emphasis on the "amor"-- love), or anything in between.
What you may want is to each have a secondary, where your lives may be less than fully entangled. This is perfectly reasonable and common. Check out this article, on the rights of secondaries (and how the original couple should treat them).
All the articles in Golden Nuggets are great:
Then there are dozens of books, and at least one awesome podcast too. Happy reading! Take your time. Most formerly mono couples who become successful at polyamory take at least a year to research and become fully informed before starting to seek or date others.
My one biggest caution is not to expect to "share a third." This is usually a recipe for disaster, and best left to fantasy. It's almost impossible to balance feelings in a triad.
What you may want is to each have a secondary, where your lives may be less than fully entangled. This is perfectly reasonable and common. Check out this article, on the rights of secondaries (and how the original couple should treat them).
All the articles in Golden Nuggets are great:
Then there are dozens of books, and at least one awesome podcast too. Happy reading! Take your time. Most formerly mono couples who become successful at polyamory take at least a year to research and become fully informed before starting to seek or date others.
My one biggest caution is not to expect to "share a third." This is usually a recipe for disaster, and best left to fantasy. It's almost impossible to balance feelings in a triad.
Thanks so much for helpful reply. It is very appreciated.
