Most commonly cited articles and books master thread

Evie

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Hi All,

I was looking through some historical threads for off-forum links and found that there were often broken links or ugly, old-fashioned webpages that we just don't link to very much anymore. Let's curate here some of the most common ones that get linked specifically on Poly Relationships Corner and pin it.

Feel free to add to this thread.

Web articles:


Books:
  • "Sex at Dawn: how we mate, why we stray, and what it means for modern relationships," by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá.
  • "Opening Up: a guide to creating and sustaining open relationships," by Tristan Taormino.
  • "The Jealousy Workbook: Exercises and insights for managing open relationships," by Kathy Labriola
  • "Polysecure: Attachment, trauma and consensual nonmonogamy," by Jessica Fern
  • "The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A practical guide to polyamory, open relationships, and other freedoms in sex and love," by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton
  • Resources on non-violent communication https://www.nonviolentcommunication.com/shop/
  • "Designer Relationships" by Mark A. Michaels and Patricia Johnson.

*Note: none of these links are affiliate marketing links; we don't do that here*
 
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I was just reminded about Jessica Fern's webinars:
 
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Dialectical Behavioral Therapy for Borderline Personality Disorder

Amazon link to the manual itself. This is a digital copy of the instructor resources used to guide patients in learning the skills to handle their emotional extremes. I have found it useful.

DBT Manual

If anyone with a BPD diagnosis wants a copy, but can't afford it, feel free to DM me and I will happily pay for it, if I have the money available at the time.

DBT worksheets and handouts free pdf
 

So, someone called you a unicorn hunter? What is a unicorn hunter, and what is wrong with unicorn hunting in a polyamory context? What would be a better way to practice polyamory if you are already in a couple and just opening up?
 

Podcast. Start listening from the beginning.
 
Book:
Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists and Their Clients

By Martha Kauppi
 
Only on wayback now but the old Anita Wagner website


GG
 
A comprehensive list of books on polyamory currently available:

American Poly: A History
Christopher M Gleason

The Anxious Person’s Guide to Non-Monogamy
Lola Phoenix

The Art and Etiquette of Polyamory
Francoise Simpere

The Art of Relationship Anarchy: A Revolutionary Approach to Love, Intimacy, and Connection - Deanne Meyers

Ask Me About Polyamory – Kimichi Kuddles
Tikva Wolf

Beyond Monogamy, Polyamory and the Future of Polyqueer Sexualities
Mimi Schippers

Designer Relationships: A Guide to Happy Monogamy, Positive Polyamory, and Optimistic Open Relationships
Mark Michaels and Patricia Johnson

Eight Things I Wish I'd Known About Polyamory: Before I Tried It and Frakked It Up
Cunning Minx

The Ethical Slut, Third Edition: A Practical Guide to Polyamory, Open Relationships, and Other Freedoms in Sex and Love
Janet Hardy and Dossie Eason

Fifty Years of Polyamory in America
Glen W Olson, Terry Lee Brussel-Rogers

Fraught Intimacies: Non-Monogamy in the Public Sphere
Nathan Rambukkana

A Happy Life in an Open Relationship
Susan Wenzel

Hot to the Touch: Views from the Polyamory Lifestyle
Cole Riley

It's Called "Polyamory": Coming Out About Your Nonmonogamous Relationships
Tamara Pinctus and Rebecca Hiles

The Jealousy Workbook
Kathy Labriola

Kaleidoscope of Polyamory: How Ready are You for an Open Relationship?
Mint Rabbit

The Lesbian Polyamory Reader
Marcia Munson, Judith Stelboum

Let’s Talk About …Non-Monogamy
JR James

The Many Faces of Polyamory: Longing and Belonging in Consensual Relationships
Magdalena J Fosse

Many Loves: A Memoir of Polyamory and Finding Love(s)
Sophie Lucido Johnson

More: A Memoir of an Open Marriage
Molly Roden Winter

More Than Two: A Practical Guide to Ethical Polyamory
Franklin Veaux, Eve Rickert

Multiamory: Essential Tools for Modern Relationships
Winston, Lingren, and Matlack

The Myth of Monogamy: Fidelity and Infidelity in Animals and People
Judith Eve Lipton, David P. Barash

The New Love Without Limits
Deborah Anapol

Open: An Uncensored Memoir of Love, Liberation, and Non-Monogamy
Rachel Krantz

Open Monogamy: A Guide to Co-Creating Your Ideal Relationship Agreement
Tammy Nelson

Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships
Tristan Taomino

Poly Land: My Brutally Honest Adventures in Polyamory
Page Turner

The Polyamorists Next Door
Elisabeth Shef

Polyamory: A Clinical Toolkit for Therapists (and Their Clients)
Martha Kauppi

Polyamory and Jealousy
Franklin Veaux, Eve Rickert

Polyamory and Kink
Jess Mahler

The Polyamory Breakup Book
Kathy Labriola

Polyamory in the 21st Century
Deborah Anapol

Polysecure: Attachment Trauma and Consensual Non-Monogamy
Jessica Fern

Polywise: A Deeper Dive into Navigating Open Relationships
Jessica Fern and David Cooley

Power Circuits: Polyamory in a Power Dynamic
Raven Kaldera

Sex at Dawn: How We Mate, Why We Stray, and What It Means for Modern Relationships
Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jetha

Relationship Anarchy: Occupy Intimacy!
Juan-Carlos Pérez-Cortés

Stepping Off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life
Amy Gahran

Stories from the Polycule: Real Life in Polyamorous Families
Elizabeth Shef

The Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory
Dedeker Winston

A Therapist’s Guide to Consensual Non-Monogamy, Polyamory, Swinging, and Open Marriage
Rhea Orion

Thriving in Non Monogamy An Ethical Slut's Guide: Overcome Jealousy, Enjoy Sex, and Honor Yourself
Erin Davidson

Understanding Non-Monogamies
Meg Barker and Darren Landridge

Understanding Threesomes Gender, Sex, and Consensual Non-Monogamy
Ryan Scoats

Undoing Monogamy: The Politics of Science and the Possibilities of Biology
Angela Willey

Why It’s OK to Not Be Monogamous
Justin L. Clardy

Wide Open: My Adventures in Polyamory, Open Marriage, and Loving on My Own Terms
Gracie X

(Thanks to Al99 for compiling this list.)
 
In addition, four of Robert Heinlein's novels have polyamorous elements to varying degrees: Stranger in a Strange Land, winner of the Hugo award and named to the Library of Congress' list of the hundred novels that shaped America, featured a plural marriage in its story. The novel had a a profound impact on the 1960s counter-culture in general, as well as on the the concept of consensual non-monogamy during that time period. In fact, it was Morning Glory Zell-Ravenheart, high priestess of the Neo-Pagan Church of All Worlds, an organization based on the fictional "church" of the same name in that novel, who invented the term "polyamorous," introducing the term in the May 1990 article "A Bouquet of Lovers," first published in the Green Egg, a Neo-Pagan journal affiliated with the Church of All Worlds.

The Moon is a Harsh Mistress, also a Hugo award winning novel, featured a "line marriage" in a fictional lunar society.

The novels Time Enough for Love and Friday both included group marriages in their stories.

(Thank you, Al99, for this list.)
 
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