I'm an INFP as well. I don't know what types the other three are, but we are each very different. The men both tend to be very logical and need to deal with matters in a "black/white" context. My girlfriend is similar to me, but is an extrovert, not an introvert. The end result is that the men sometimes struggle with jealousy and with trying to label and understand our relationship. They have this need to fit it into the "social norm" somehow. My girlfriend tends to be very passionate and I would say brings the spice to this relationship! I tend to be the quieter one that just wants no drama so that our happy little quad boat will stay afloat. I think we balance eachother out nicely, but it can cause conflict sometimes.
I have always thought success in poly relationships had more to do with a person's jealous tendencies (or lack thereof) than it does a personality assessment.
I have always thought success in poly relationships had more to do with a person's jealous tendencies (or lack thereof) than it does a personality assessment.
I don't think it's so much the jealousy tendencies as how people handle their jealousy emotions.
I don't tend to be a jealous person-but, on the few occasions that I've gotten jealous, I've also handled it well.
If I hadn't handled it well-it could have ruined the relationships even though it was a rare thing.
Today I started thread called "Emotional Triad". The husband and wife are INTJ and ISFJ respectively. I am an INTJ. The two of us who are INTJs had no problem when we attemtped a full triad; but our ISFJ did. I don't know if it is her personality or low self-esteem related to her upbringing that made her feel so insecure. For the two of us who are INTJs, we were able to adapt readily.