Recent content by MockingJay

Possibly. I actually started getting a lot more activity yesterday, so we'll see how it goes.

I will join in here just to say, I have only been on OKC for a couple of weeks, but as a guy it seems very, very difficult now with the way it is set up. The only way to guarantee someone will even see your message is if you have a "match" first meaning you both liked each other. If you like...

Juicebox, I am coming into this pretty late, but reading through your first post and then follow ups after, my gosh! It is exactly what happened with me and my wife. She was in your position. I reacted exactly the same way, and we worked through it similarly. This was a year ago now. It...

A combination of reasons. Some are things that my personality would not allow, I know it and she wouldn't be able to take me seriously even if I tried because she knows me too well. Others are things that, yeah, I really just would not want to do. In those cases I don't think it is much of a...

Magdlyn, Thanks for taking the time to address everything I wrote about, it was a great and very supportive post :) Just writing about things here and getting them out in the open helps me a great deal. But hearing how others have gotten thru similar situations takes it to a whole 'nother...

Hi everyone, I thought I would bring this thread back for an update, since it's been a while and much has changed. And it is helpful to open up once in a while to people who can understand, when I have no one to confide in. While most of my concerns at the start of this thread have...

Hey Scarlet, I don't post on here a lot, until I come across stories that resonate with what I have been going through. Your husband sounds similar to my wife with his habits for checking messages from others. We also struggled with this in the beginning, mainly because anytime I would see...

Hey Unsure, Sorry to hear about your struggles with communicating and with opening up your relationship. I don't know if it helps at all, but I've been through a lot of the same types of situations with my wife in the last year. There have been times when I felt like I was being manipulated...

Such great replies from all, thank you very much! I honestly felt silly posting this, like my problems are so minuscule or just in my head because I am an insecure person. But now I am glad that I shared here. My wife and I have had a lot of open discussion about these feelings since they...

Thanks Tinwen. I think you are right, in that I worry there may be more to it than what she is letting on, but I don't really think that's true. It is just a touchy subject, I know she doesn't want to hurt me, and she is not entirely sure whether she will like any of it. It doesn't stop me...

It's been a while since I've posted. About 6 months ago, my wife and I opened up our marriage for her to explore her poly desires. During that time, being myself monogamous, I have learned to deal with my jealousy and trust issues. We have learned together how to talk openly about our...

I know what you mean about when you are having a hard time, not wanting to constantly vent all of your thoughts onto your wife, and it is good to try and control this and set aside specific times for talking. Not too frequently or infrequently. Here is something that has helped me to make it...

heartsong, I was in a very similar situation to yours, it's been about 4 months now since my wife came out as being poly. In my case it only came up because she met with someone and let her feelings get a little out of control, so she felt the need to tell me. That was hard. The slower the...

You'll have to excuse me; I am terrible at trying to put these things into words. But from my understanding, it is not that a poly person wants to have X number of romantic partners in their life. They will have as many as they feel enough affection and attraction towards, while time and energy...

I think that fulfillment has a unique definition for every person, whether in relationships or life in general, poly or not. That being said, for my wife, it is more fulfilling to have the possibility to explore other relationships. If it never amounts to anything, fine. If it does amount to...