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It sounds very hard for you. What kind of a relationship it is, if you cannot express your negative feelings without fearing of loosing her? A very casual one - and it does not sound like you want a casual relationship with her. At least not now. It sounds like you want to stick around hoping...

Idealising this kind of group relationship sounds super toxic to me. I'm very ok with my parter having feelings for someone and having sex with them. And I might even like them too, but to be expected to fall in love with them and have sex with them sounds very... rapey. Learning to be bisexual...

How big can love in a relationship grow then? Like if I quit all my hobbies and quit my job and just give all that time and resources to my husband, will our love get very big then? Or is there a limit after which it is saturated and extra resources don't mean extra growth for the love anymore...

I really can't relate to CTF's ideas about love and value of people. I love many people in my life. Me having a friend doesn't make my child less valuable for me, or having a husband doesn't make my sister less valuable. And a friend becoming a lover doesn't really change their value for me, nor...

But what does compatible mean? That the person doesn't annoy you too much? Or that they annoy you only in the right ways? :D

I don't think there is an end game in life. There is just living, and constantly changing, and constantly coping with others changing. As I see it, agreements of exclusivity can always be only temporary. Even if they are made for forever, people change their minds all the time. And it is fine.

Where I live it's possible for unrelated people to get separate mortages and buy a house together. The banks don't care how many people live together, as long as everyone is able to pay their share. And also renting a place with more than two inhabitants is perfectly fine and normal, although...

I think it's totally fine to just answer whatever he says. You don't need to start The Talk unless he says something that makes it necessary

Well there is a very easy solution and it's called Viagra.

Very good questions! My only answer is to offer as much possibilities as I can. Let the children decide for themselves, let them choose even the kind of thigs someone says is bad for them. The child has a penis? Give them dresses and baby dolls and teach them to knit.The child has a vagina...

^ Yeah, probably it is. But I was thinking about time, not people. I don't think it would be healthy to have just one person fill up all your time. Even if I was mono I would not be okay with that, and I would not be with someone asking me for that. I guess some people do live like that though.

This whole question seems weird to me. This is not how I see my life. I'm not poly to be poly. I'm poly pecause of the people in my life, because of the specific people and the specific connections with them. I have never been searching for relationships to add something in my life, not even...

Oh how exciting!

To me four dates a week sounds a lot, if that time is always away from time with your kids, and your husband is all that time alone with them? Do you still have enough time left for them, does you husband also get time away from the family, and do you still also have time to be together as the...

I have always been very cautious. Even when I was young I never really believed in the Disney version of love. I have always seen it more as choosing a compatible partner rather than just following an attraction without thinking. So, yeah, it takes time. And now, when we all have busy lives...