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    A controversial thread

    I think it's about knowing that feelings come and go, as they do, but choosing to commit. Does that make sense? I'm aware that the situation is imperfect at best sometimes (including the long distance), but I'd like to trust a partner who says he wants to work, more than the partner who wants to...
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    A controversial thread

    That's my fear. But I voiced this fear and we still have conversations about it (meaning, he doesn't agree with this fear, but words are just words hey - or maybe that's my anxiety speaking). I don't think I mentioned him not opening his heart. In my understanding, I also don't believe that...
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    A controversial thread

    Amazingly eloquent, useful, beautiful reply. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Shortly about Red, because I think I didn't explain fully what he meant with his words. I think he's quite similar to me, maybe (or maybe I'm projecting, you never know) - hoping that something good will come...
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    A controversial thread

    First of all: thank you for visiting this thread. It already means a bunch to me. I want to talk about something that, in this specific context I'm finding myself in (yes, this website), might look a bit controversial: monogamy. As I've been somewhat educated on polyamory myself and had a brief...
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    In desperate need of metamour advice

    Dear everyone, I'm very sorry for replying so late - this was (and is) taking a lot of power away from my mental health. Anyhow; I appreciated your responses so much, and it helped me a lot to keep a clear head. I communicated to my metamour that I think it's best if we are not in contact, and...
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    In desperate need of metamour advice

    Thank you for your reply! I really value it. To answer your question: I do hear from my partner what shitty things she says about me, but all the information in this post is what she texted personally to me. So both, kind of.
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    In desperate need of metamour advice

    Hi! I'm very happy to stumble across this forum as I'm currently in a situation which eats me alive. I'll try to shortly explain. Some months ago, I met a couple and started dating with both of them. However, after some time, I didn't develop feelings for one of them and therefore I explained...
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