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Not really, he encouraged it because he knew I was curious, but he wasn't turned on by it. See answer below! See answer below! So, first of all: thank you dearly. I have zero ENM/poly community around me and my therapist has been fully booked - this is the support that I truly needed. Thank...

Thank you for these questions! I was bringing up pretty often that I was struggling with doubts around this topic, and that I did not know what to do. I sometimes mentioned things about wanting to join a couple, for example. I did not say with certainty that I would want to pursue. It was...

Okay, that might be a bit of a provocative title but what I meant here is that I'm very open to criticism. I want to learn where I went wrong, where can I grow, yadi yadi yada. I've been in a relationship for 2,5 years with my long distance partner. We had a wonderful connection, sexual life...

We both desired a monogamy-kind-of-setup. We are open to finding out how to stretch that container, but both of us didn't feel like we had the skills yet to create a different kind of relationship (the polyamorous relationship in which we started was a big, big disaster). Hm. Good one. So I...

He watches porn alone. He fantasizes. I do the same. Sometimes I flirt with people. It's really all fine!

Let me rephrase some of the things I said, since I just had a shower and... shower thoughts make things more clear! I definitely don't mean that I'm against him having fantasies. Though I didn't underline this part clearly enough, we actively fantasize together, watch porn together, we went on...

I did. He said he understood it, and we tried to reflect together why he was doing it this way. Some things came up about sexuality, that he enjoys voyeurism, and he has these moods in which he wants to "shake up the boring routine of his life" by doing something risky like this. Seems like it's...

Hey! Thanks for your reply. It was a delight to read, and I'm very happy about the perspective that you are bringing in. My folders had passwords, but it was on my computer, where I was logged in. Honestly, I feel that I should trust that my partner wouldn't go into these files, in my own home...

Dear people, Let's start off with: I wouldn't call myself or my relationship polyamorous at the moment, but it's definitely a monogamish/monogamish-curious one. I hope no one is offended by my posting here - but so far I have not found any community (not in real life and not online) that has so...

I think it's about knowing that feelings come and go, as they do, but choosing to commit. Does that make sense? I'm aware that the situation is imperfect at best sometimes (including the long distance), but I'd like to trust a partner who says he wants to work, more than the partner who wants to...

That's my fear. But I voiced this fear and we still have conversations about it (meaning, he doesn't agree with this fear, but words are just words hey - or maybe that's my anxiety speaking). I don't think I mentioned him not opening his heart. In my understanding, I also don't believe that...

Amazingly eloquent, useful, beautiful reply. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Shortly about Red, because I think I didn't explain fully what he meant with his words. I think he's quite similar to me, maybe (or maybe I'm projecting, you never know) - hoping that something good will come...

First of all: thank you for visiting this thread. It already means a bunch to me. I want to talk about something that, in this specific context I'm finding myself in (yes, this website), might look a bit controversial: monogamy. As I've been somewhat educated on polyamory myself and had a brief...

Dear everyone, I'm very sorry for replying so late - this was (and is) taking a lot of power away from my mental health. Anyhow; I appreciated your responses so much, and it helped me a lot to keep a clear head. I communicated to my metamour that I think it's best if we are not in contact, and...

Thank you for your reply! I really value it. To answer your question: I do hear from my partner what shitty things she says about me, but all the information in this post is what she texted personally to me. So both, kind of.

Hi! I'm very happy to stumble across this forum as I'm currently in a situation which eats me alive. I'll try to shortly explain. Some months ago, I met a couple and started dating with both of them. However, after some time, I didn't develop feelings for one of them and therefore I explained...