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upstatecouple

upstatecouple

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Hello my name is ashley and I have been married to my husband for close to twenty years. Over the last five years, we have been doing a lot of exploring. Recently, my husband asked if he could have a very honest and transparent conversation with me. I travel for work often.And i'm constantly staying at hotels and air B&Bs. Hey confessed that he wanted me to try and hook up with a stranger while I was on one of my works trips. To give him a play by play of how I was trying to hit on other guys etc. One of the things that he kept stressing is that I give him very specific details. What i'm wearing, how I look etc. Im dieing to know if other have had the situation like this?
 
upstatecouple said:
Hello my name is ashley and I have been married to my husband for close to twenty years. Over the last five years, we have been doing a lot of exploring. Recently, my husband asked if he could have a very honest and transparent conversation with me. I travel for work often.And i'm constantly staying at hotels and air B&Bs. Hey confessed that he wanted me to try and hook up with a stranger while I was on one of my works trips. To give him a play by play of how I was trying to hit on other guys etc. One of the things that he kept stressing is that I give him very specific details. What i'm wearing, how I look etc. Im dieing to know if other have had the situation like this?
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This isn't about polyamory, it's just recreational sex. Polyamory is about having multiple relationships that involve love and emotional connection. I recommend asking your questions over on reddit in /r/swingers.
 
This is not unusual, but it's not polyamory. Is this like a cuckold or hotwife thing for him? You could talk about that.

Do you even want to do this?

Could you just make stuff up to tell him? Leave it in fantasy? Is that a safer way to try this on?

It's probably not a good idea during a work trip, if work is paying for your accommodations. If things go wrong (ex: coworker on the trip sees you hitting on people, knowing you are married, and spreads rumors at work), or super wrong (like assault), do you really want to have work involved in all that?

Just because hubby wants this and asked for it doesn't mean you have to oblige. It's ok for you to pass if you aren't up for it. Your consent to do things or not belongs to you.

Galagirl
 
Greetings Ashley,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

We get that once in a while, it is known as cuckolding or hotwifing. I see nothing wrong with it as long as everyone involved is consenting. That would include the stranger's consent to have private details shared with your husband. This is a new adventure for you and I'm sure you could have fun.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

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