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Right, It's been hard because the women i talked to grew up in a culture where monogamy was the norm. I want to talk to them about polyamory partially because I hope they'll be more open-minded to the idea. It's also to educate them on other types of relationships. What I noticed is they're...

Figure out what you want - Research polyamory, but realize relationships are subjective to a degree. See your research as a source of inspiration, not as a rulebook or manual on how to have a polyamorous relationship. Design your ideal relationship. Forget about labels and what people think is...

Here are reasons why I like polyamory. You can have more than one partner - Polyamory allows more than one partner to meet your needs. I love women in general from diverse backgrounds. You can get more love and support from your partners' strengths. If one partner can't meet your needs, another...

I used to be afraid of polyamory long ago when I still had the monogamous mindset. I assumed polyamorous just wanted orgies. That was until someone explained "no, that's actually not what polyamorous people do. They get in relationships like monogamous people do." Once I heard that, it resonated...

Right, it feels like no one wants to explain the difference between a healthy relationship and unhealthy relationship. They expect to just magically figure things out.

That's what I don't like about the monogamous community. I realized our values didn't align together. The monogamous community seems to hold sexist views. Men seem to like the idea of marriage because they like owning women. They might also be pressured to prove they're "real men." They...

I noticed many monogamous women aren't concerned about love. They're just afraid of being abandoned so they try to control their partners by limiting their interactions with the opposite sex. Fear is not love. That's my problem with monogamous relationships. I like polyamorous relationships...

It's scary being polyamorous. For almost my whole life, I've been taught only about monogamy. No one taught me how to have a polyamorous relationship. I think that's why I chose monogamy for so long because it was in my comfort zone. With polyamory, I'm going down an unfamiliar path. Someone...

Right, they said things like "how would you feel if your girlfriend had multiple boyfriends?" I said "if she's happy, why not?" Lol. I think a few though secretly wanted to break out of traditional norms. They were against me having multiple partners because of traditional marriage, but were the...

Coming out as polyamorous was very hard. I got to know a few women and told them I wanted a monogamous relationship. It was during a time when I thought I was monogamous. After realizing I was polyamorous, I told them about it. They didn't know how to react. They were shocked. Some were passive...

Right, I stopped associating with the monogamous community because it seemed like people are only interested in anything except love. They want to be monogamous because of tradition, societal expectations, financial reasons, etc. It's hypocritical for monogamous people to bash polyamorous people...

I think I was fooled by the Hollywood fantasy of love. I believed one person could make me happy. I realized it's unrealistic to expect your partner to fulfill all of your needs. If he or she has boundaries that conflict with your interests, there's not much you can do. Sometimes, partners can't...

She might have issues seeing her value. Did you try getting her to see her value in the relationship? That might help. It might also help to get her to just imagine you leaving for another woman. That will get her to process her emotions and be more open to the idea eventually. It also sounds...

I'd ask her questions about how she feels about polyamory and monogamy. Get her to think about why she feels the way she feels. Hopefully, she'll become self aware of what she wants and be more open to polyamory.

I used to be a hardcore supporter of monogamy. Ever since I was a kid though, I wanted more than one woman. I had a crush on Velma from Scooby Doo then Daphne. Finally, I thought it was best to just like both of them lol. I also wanted to go to Japan and impress Japanese women. As I got older...

Realizing polyamorous relationships might be for me. Ever since I was a kid, I loved women from diverse backgrounds. As a teen, I secretly wanted to be with many women. I denied it because I thought monogamy was the only "honorable way" to have a relationship. When I'm chasing one woman, I get...