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I actually really like this idea! It can be really soothing for some people to only have the knowledge of the 'important' (I use "" because I can't think of a better word right now) new people. It would be a great starting point idea to build off of and tweak if the initial idea isn't 100% right...

I did some reading on spiritual sex, because as a pagan I have to admit I had not come across it before! This is the link I used, and it explained in a way that may be helpful. It has some weird things like "ethnic music" and it's kinda offputting tho. Sometimes it seems like someone would be...

With penis oral sex, I used to use condoms when I was mono with Z, just because I mean...I hate the flavor of pre-cum and we were in HS when we met so I wasn't exactly savvy to the other options. He said it was enjoyable, but not as pleasurable. Not pointless, just not as good. The closest...

With so many different variations of how people practice poly, there are going to be variations in terms of how people practice sexual health 'rules' or issues along the lines of fluid bonding. In this discussion, I would really like to talk about the different ways people do things, why, and...

Having no room for a change in dynamics is what makes the idea of (more long term) FWB really strange to me and more likely to fail. Someone you see once every few months and don't talk to often? Less so, and definitely easier to keep lines from changing. For me a string of casual hook-ups...

Ohhhh! Sorry for the confusion on my part! That makes sense now.

But it is fairly well known that objectification happens in almost every society; so like...where to? I've experienced being objectified and it sucks; I've still had successful relationships. That doesn't make the objectification I experienced null and void.

Kevin, I feel like this is a really well worded statement that accurately describes the emotions a lot of poly people have; and that sometimes are hard to form into their own words. Even if there is no "primary" and "secondary", I think somethings being one of others can spark that fear of...

SeasonedPoly's advice was very spot on for sure, and definitely a good place to work from! I totally get your views with Felix's personal limitation of 'just sex'. As Tinwin said, it rarely works out that way. I think though, because you guys are really working on communicating and it sounds...

As a massage therapist, I can say science has proven that deep tissue massage creates an emotional release in people. You are literally connecting to peoples emotions through their bodies. I have had clients have a strong emotional trauma release on my table. The body-mind connection is real...

It being a first date discussion is definitely a good idea!

I think a lot of people have various insecurities that are brought to the surface through polyamourous relationships; just due to the fact is challenges us to grow in ways not expected in monogamy. I was wondering what other people were/are insecure about? How they are dealing/delt with, those...

Again, I'm talking about in general; overall, overlapping, all around. Not just at you. Sorry you feel that way. My not getting clarification made my advice not helpful. Assuming I read things properly without going back and checking made my advice not helpful. MY advice. Being too sugar-coaty...

I expressly stated that I was talking, not really about the Open vs. POly thread; but IN GENERAL. I'm not quite sure why you keep bringing it up in this context? I was also directing it at MYSELF that I SHOULD HAVE AS WELL. I am, literally, talking as a general rule of thumb for interactions on...

If something we perceive as cheating happens, then of course these feelings will come back. But, it also shows that we maybe haven't resolved all of those issues to the fullest, as we had thought we had. I think that the rules, as they are, aren't working. (I'm not saying that he shouldn't...

I mean, being tactless can be hurtful where as being too flowery is just annoying. I feel like that's a false equivalence. And I agree, many people practice many types of poly; I'm just saying we should clarify what type before saying "you're wrong because I disagree with that style"

I meant in all threads, not just the OP's thread, we (as in all users, including you and me, but in the end, EVERYONE) should get clarification on something we might be biased about. Is X situation something that could have been written poorly? More as a general rule for just interactions on...

I did reread it, but that doesn't really answer my question: why ask me to reread it? I literally said you were right, I was being biased, and I am sorry for that. I also explained that I was explaining it from my interpretation of the posts, and I should have asked for clarification first...

Is this directed at me? If so, why? I already acknowledged my faults and apologized.

This is why I say approach things with a tone based in empathy. You can make the exact same point without it sounding like an attack. Empathy usually makes people more apt to listen, while calling people out and using 'tough love' makes people defensive. There is no point making people feel hurt...