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Try googling "your city + polyamory" and see what pops up. Or check Facebook or Fetlife, where you can look specifically for groups in your area.

Good. Keep reading. If all you want to do is use your wife as a sex object for your own pleasure, while she wants to actually romantically love others, I think you are intrinsically incompatible. We can't change each other. We can only change ourselves.

My bf Aries is currently "shooting fish in a barrel" when it comes to women. Lots and lots of polyamorous and swinger women would drop their panties for him in an instant. And many have. He draws women like a magnet. I dunno if it's "competence." I think it's being caring, a good writer of texts...

Yes, couples (and women, sometimes) can have privileges, but couples and women aren't inherently privileged. Marriage has privileges, but you can be in a committed couple and not be married, so... Right.

My own bf is polyamorous, but dabbles in the swinging world. I still don't understand why. The two communities have very different expectations and guidelines. He falls in love with swinger women who are not interested in polyamorous-style relationships, or are only somewhat interested in them...

I remember when a few younger people came here some time ago (maybe 10 years ago?) using the abbreviation "polyam" for polyamory or polyamorous. When questioned, they said they used "polyam" instead of just "poly" because Polynesian people were already using "Poly" as an abbreviation for...

Since when is being a woman or a couple a "privilege"? When you titled this thread "for the privileged" I, like Tinwen, thought of people who have the funds and time to support dating multiple people.

I just read Evie's post, and I think it's unfair that the queer community gets "omnisexual," and "pansexual," and "multisexual" and "polysexual," and the polyamory community gets nothing. That seems discriminatory. I object.

Ever since 2008, when this board began, we have used the term "polysexual" to mean a person who is able and willing to have casual sex with multiple people. In other words, Suzy can be having sex with Ted, Bob, Mark and Jane, or several other randoms every weekend at the sex club, but doing...

Oh, I just started a thread on this. I will take my post, add it here, and delete my thread.

Shit. That's scary! You just can't seem to catch a break lately. :(

Welcome back, Indie. Your voice was greatly missed. I'm sorry about your struggles. We just have to keep putting one foot in front of the other, huh? 🩷 Mags

Well, this kind of judgement seems to be common on Reddit, or so I've heard. There's a poly police force there, enforcing the "one true poly" law. We're not cliquish here. We're adults. Polyamory isn't a competition for cool points. There are many forms polyamory can take. I, personally, am...

Hi Indie! :) Yeah, you really can't force your wife to only be interested in a guy who will somehow also be immediately interested in you, as a friend. Of course, that would be nice. But most guys that want to fuck or date your wife will be solely interested in her, first and foremost. Some...

She might be doing and saying things partly to spare your feelings, but partly because she is battling her own monogamous conditioning. We are all raised in a mono culture. Loving, being married to and sexually/romantically faithful to only one other person is our cultural norm. Anything outside...

In your Intro you shared your love/kink/sex network: It seems you have two very young children, and got into kink/scening just a few months ago, when your baby was less than a year old, or maybe barely a year old. (I didn't have energy or time to practice polyamory when my kids were that...

Some people can do hotwife stuff, or stag/vixen, or cuckolding, or swinging, and some can't. Personally, I think those casual, sport sex approaches are playing with fire, because humans are designed to combine sex with an emotional connection. Women especially, biologically, need to fully trust...

Hi, Ember. Welcome! That's a pretty big poly network! I hope you all can keep everything balanced. You said one thing that confused me a little: You and Duck are a long-term married couple, but it seems you put Raven first, as if she's more primary for you in this particular group? Maybe I'm...

Hello, We ask that all couples coming here "seeking a third" to "add to our relationship" to please read this, for educational purposes and to comply with the intent of the forum. https://polyamory.com/threads/a-note-for-couples-posting-seeking-ads.156754/ Thank you, Your Mod Team

Hello, We ask that all couples coming here "seeking a third" to "add to our relationship" to please read this, for educational purposes and to comply with the intent of the forum. https://polyamory.com/threads/a-note-for-couples-posting-seeking-ads.156754/ Thank you, Your Mod Team