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Born This Way I was a square peg born in a round hole. I was raised in a conservative home-schooled Christian society, yet I was always more open-minded than my friends and even their parents. Sometime in my mid-teens I sat on the porch and did a little thought experiment. I had a big crush on...

I felt a re-introduction was in order since I'm an "us" now... just got married! Also, my life is a lot less rollercoastery, so I'm not left wondering if I'm going to live my life mono or poly anymore. I considered myself polyflexible. Although I leaned heavily poly, I always seemed to fall for...

Thanks for the links! I've been to a few but I have yet to visit most of those. I did Google to find some local groups but so far have only found one that meets on Sundays when I'm at work :-/ I'll keep at it though! Thank you so much for the guidance and resources :D

I like your take on it HappilyFallenAngel :o I think the reason I think of it as more of a poly thing is because mono would say you can love only one at a time so you should get over your feelings before moving on, whereas in poly we're accustomed to loving more than one at a time so I feel...

tenK, that makes a lot of sense. Also, what you said made me realize that... I think the reason I've had such a hard time moving past this is because my ex did that thing where she completely cut off communication with me, and so aside from the romantic aspect I'm missing her presence in my life...

[I joined a while ago, but haven't been active, and I never actually made an intro. Better late than never!] Hello you beautiful wonderful people!!! I'm Matt. I'm 25, straight, Caucasian male, INTP, hopeless romantic, somewhat demisexual, and until recently I identified as being polyflexible...

Welcome! I'm also new-ish to the forum :D You sound so much like myself, not just in what position you're in and your stance, but the way you think and speak too. Are you an INTP by chance? Anyway... I've considered myself poly yet still attempted mono relationships. I feel like I'm primarily...

[correct me if I'm wrong, about anything, which I probably am, but that's why I'm here] A concept I've been personally struggling with lately is that in theory, wouldn't being polyamorous mean you could move on to a new love while still holding onto a past one? Without going into egregious...

I was raised conservatively, but I came up with the idea all on my own in high school when I had crushes on two girls. I started thinking, wouldn't it be possible to have a romantic relationship with both of them simultaneously? What if one of them has a boyfriend, or another guy likes them...

I don't wish to convert her. She believes in polyhusbandry, where she wouldn't mind taking on another partner if the first one wasn't meeting her needs, but she still wouldn't want to share either one with anyone else. She admits it's a double standard, and says that I meet all her needs so she...

Thank you everyone. As I mentioned, I feel that breaking up with her is the right thing to do. It wouldn't be the first time I've had to break up with someone because of it being the right thing... being poly really sucks sometimes :-( It's just that we do love each other very much, and she...

I'm a young poly male who's fallen in love with an older mono woman who's been great to me. She fell for me knowing that I'm poly, I guess she thought I'd change. She's asked before if I could be monogamous to her and I said I don't believe so and that I don't want to be. Yet she still said...

getting better I apologize for the bump. As you stated, I too want to keep up dialog in this thread, just have been busy lately. I'm either working, sleeping, on Skype with Girl A or spending time with Girl B. I'm actually typing this up during downtime at work. Since the last post things have...

#thestruggleisreal So yesterday Girl B sent a friendly email to Girl A to reassure her that she doesn't want come between us and would like to be friends if at all possible. Girl A replied very positively, accepting the request to be friends. Girl A also sent me a couple of long emails, one a...

I haven't done much reading on the forums yet as I just started my first poly relationship TODAY. Is it at least somewhat common for monogamous individuals to keep a healthy relationship with an actively polyamorous partner? I also apologize immensely for the spelling blunder in the title of my...

Communication Thank you for the input. Like I said, we do talk pretty much every day. I actually just finished that heart to heart conversation. Basically I would consider myself a polyamorist because I do believe in and have the capacity to love more than one individual. You described it...

Texas Tornado Matt, 23, male, straight, TX I've often considered that I could be polyamorous, but I had a hard enough time just getting one girlfriend that I wouldn't have to worry about it. In April I started seeing Girl A and we are very serious now. We often talk about the future and how...