[correct me if I'm wrong, about anything, which I probably am, but that's why I'm here]
A concept I've been personally struggling with lately is that in theory, wouldn't being polyamorous mean you could move on to a new love while still holding onto a past one? Without going into egregious detail, I still have strong feelings for a girl that broke up with me a year ago. Monogamomy Law dictates that I must sever my feelings for said girl before letting a new one into my heart, but then again I'm not monogamous.
Say I fall in love with a new girl(s) now or in the future. Can't I love them while still having feelings for my previous love? I know that, regardless, the healthy thing would be to let go of my strong feelings for her, but she made such an impact on my life and who I am that doing so would be no small feat. In a way, anyone I've ever been with still feels like a part of me.
Does this make sense to anyone else, or do I need serious counseling?
A concept I've been personally struggling with lately is that in theory, wouldn't being polyamorous mean you could move on to a new love while still holding onto a past one? Without going into egregious detail, I still have strong feelings for a girl that broke up with me a year ago. Monogamomy Law dictates that I must sever my feelings for said girl before letting a new one into my heart, but then again I'm not monogamous.
Say I fall in love with a new girl(s) now or in the future. Can't I love them while still having feelings for my previous love? I know that, regardless, the healthy thing would be to let go of my strong feelings for her, but she made such an impact on my life and who I am that doing so would be no small feat. In a way, anyone I've ever been with still feels like a part of me.
Does this make sense to anyone else, or do I need serious counseling?