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Yes! I have this issue that you and NYCindie are talking about! It would feel strange to talk about how much I might be willing to commit before I had a real sense of how much we really liked each other. Maybe some people know all that before the first date or sex, but I almost never do. ��...

I am a big fan of sharing and being very open and making sure everyone knows what's happening all the time. I think right now you're at that point in the relationship where you're going to kind of set the tone for these issues. Of course, you'll be able to change things or work out the kinks...

Looks like I've gotten indecent on a couple of occasions. I'm 45. I've been hanging out w men who were anywhere between 24 and 63 since my marriage ended. I had a great time w one of the 24 year olds, though it was just a one night stand (but I see him pop up in my okc visitor list quite a...

I don't get the over 18 thing, but it doesn't look like it makes a lot of difference to me... I'm at 97% if I take a guess at how many were after 18 or 98% if I use my true lifetime number. My numbers aren't exact but I think they're at least w/in 2 or 3 -- lifetime total is 55 (30 between 15...

I think the only good reason to get involved with him is because YOU want to. Don't do it because someone else wants you to. And certainly don't get into a relationship with this guy just to facilitate Zed's relationship with his wife. Yikes! I'm not saying don't do it. If you want to, you...

Yes! I think it was hot. But anything with James Spader is hot! 😜

Self, I agree that it's important to talk to her and work this out before you guys marry. I am worried, though, that she may feel like she's been betrayed by both her partner and her best friend. I think that could be a pretty scary position to be in, especially if she doesn't have other...

Yes, Halcyeus! Vicky Christina Barcelona was great and sexy and as soon as I read that I thought of Y Tu Mama, Tambien. I think it's possible that every Spanish language film I've seen has been hot. lol I'm gonna have to watch Mulholland Drive again. I actually drove by it today on the...

I've had this song by Unknown Mortal Orchestra on repeat for days, along with So Good at Being in Trouble, also awesome by the same band, before I realized it's probably about polyamory in one way or another. The lyrics are pretty cryptic, tho. Found this, but have no idea how reliable it is...

The Secretary is one of the sexiest and funniest movies ever! I haven't seen it in ages, but I remember feeling like the sex scene(s) in Mullholland Drive were crazy sexy and well done.

Thanks! I sure hope I feel that way when I get there! I'm kinda in the middle of a really exciting moment for me, so I thought I'd check in. 😊 I just drove to LA by myself for the first time and it feels so different and exciting and full of possibilities. I'm here for two dates w people I...

I agree with sparklepop's advice. In my situation, I don't think of it at all as playing games. It's more like I came to terms with the fact that he can't offer me much more. And it's my decision to accept what he can/wants to give or pass on it. If I was having the feelings you are about...

Holy fuck. I cannot get Pornographer out of my mind. I told him that I've been having rape fantasies about him (though I describe it that way only because of a lacking vocabulary, if it were anything like rape of course I wouldn't want it, by definition, it's more like I want him to "take" me...

That sounds like a painful position to be in. 😟 I'm involved with someone who has cancelled with me way too much in the past. I thought he just wasn't into me, but then when I'm with him he seems to be. I'm not sure and I may be fooling myself, but I think he just needs a lot of alone time...

Thanks for stopping by, you guys! 😊 So Tantra Teacher and I went to the sex club and it was fun but we didn't play with anyone else. We had quite a lot of fun together, though! 😍 It was really a lot of fun. And then we also had a great time wednesday out dancing and I stayed at his hotel...

This is an interesting question for me because my "definition" of or maybe my "threshold" for love has really shifted quite a bit lately. I had this sort of blind loyalty mixed with tenderness and history for my husband of 25 years who recently cheated (we were mono) and left me for the OW. I...

I thought the whole point was that she needed physical intimacy. It makes me wonder if somehow getting back to just the two of you might not be a bad idea. Maybe this is sounding good just because she's already connected to the guy she's dating. If their relationship were to end would she...

I'm not sure why his relationship with her is relevant. There's no reason to be comparing how he is with her to how he is with you. just because he feels comfortable enough to have sex with her, someone who he has a long history with, doesn't have any bearing on whether he's ready or wants to...

Sooo, he did not show up! 😢 I was so bummed! I ended up having a good night, though. I danced with someone I'd never seen before who was really fun to dance with. That used to happen a lot more, but I've been dancing so much that I know all the regulars. It's always exciting to add someone...

Thanks for posting that, Karen! That's pretty awesome! 😃