Polyamory was introduced to me by my wife after 6 years of being together. We got together initially as friends looking for fun. In the beginning she expressed to me her concerns for me being with other women. Stating that if I were to be with anyone else that I tell her so our relationship could end. I reluctantly agreed however did not follow the guidelines set in place. I slept with another women and not long after that told my future wife about the situation. We got through it after several fights and moved on, our relationship became stronger until I received a job offer across the country.
I moved across the country with the agreement that my future wife would follow in a few months when she finishes her degree. Things became very bumpy at that time when I realize the previous girl I had relations with took the same job across the country. I did not speak a word of this to my future wife for fear of what she would say or do. In the meantime she was living it up back home with some friends from college(mostly male) which concerned me. Later on we both discovered that we had been lying to each other. I hid the truth about the other female being around and she hid the truth about hanging out with certain male friends and telling me she was with females.(to this day she will claims she had only platonic relationships with these males). We forgave each other and this made us stronger.
I proposed to her and we soon found out that she was pregnant. We had our first child, then a few years later our second. We have always been in a monogamous relationship, with her never wanting me to even watch porn. She had sometimes expressed to me that she likes women but could never do anything with one. And that if I did something with one to never tell her about it.
She started a job at a gym as a past time because she was a stay at home mom. She was feeling very trapped. At her job she was constantly surrounded by beautiful people and getting hit on a lot. I’m the very jealous type so naturally this bothered me. But I was able to push it to the side. Not to long after she came to me discussing her views on polyamory. Telling me that she wants to be in relationships with other people and have the freedom to be with them emotionally and sexually (male and female). This caught me completely by surprise, this was a woman would completely changed me. I had zero problem in the past being with whatever woman I wanted to be with but it was strictly sexual for me. To now only being with one woman and only wanting one woman. I cherish our monogamous relationship and could not even stand the thought of my wife being with someone else emotionally or sexually. She claims to have always been this way but I just don’t see it given the previous experiences we’ve had. She claims that it wasn’t set off because of one specific person but I am very suspicious of that
I know this is alot of background and hopefully you will read all the way through but I really could use some insist on polyamory especially people with children. I don’t know what to do, I don’t want to be polyamorous but my wife does. Even though she say how it broke me and told me to forget she even brought it up. I know this is what is in her heart. I just want to understand, I want to try and make this work but I don’t know how.
I moved across the country with the agreement that my future wife would follow in a few months when she finishes her degree. Things became very bumpy at that time when I realize the previous girl I had relations with took the same job across the country. I did not speak a word of this to my future wife for fear of what she would say or do. In the meantime she was living it up back home with some friends from college(mostly male) which concerned me. Later on we both discovered that we had been lying to each other. I hid the truth about the other female being around and she hid the truth about hanging out with certain male friends and telling me she was with females.(to this day she will claims she had only platonic relationships with these males). We forgave each other and this made us stronger.
I proposed to her and we soon found out that she was pregnant. We had our first child, then a few years later our second. We have always been in a monogamous relationship, with her never wanting me to even watch porn. She had sometimes expressed to me that she likes women but could never do anything with one. And that if I did something with one to never tell her about it.
She started a job at a gym as a past time because she was a stay at home mom. She was feeling very trapped. At her job she was constantly surrounded by beautiful people and getting hit on a lot. I’m the very jealous type so naturally this bothered me. But I was able to push it to the side. Not to long after she came to me discussing her views on polyamory. Telling me that she wants to be in relationships with other people and have the freedom to be with them emotionally and sexually (male and female). This caught me completely by surprise, this was a woman would completely changed me. I had zero problem in the past being with whatever woman I wanted to be with but it was strictly sexual for me. To now only being with one woman and only wanting one woman. I cherish our monogamous relationship and could not even stand the thought of my wife being with someone else emotionally or sexually. She claims to have always been this way but I just don’t see it given the previous experiences we’ve had. She claims that it wasn’t set off because of one specific person but I am very suspicious of that
I know this is alot of background and hopefully you will read all the way through but I really could use some insist on polyamory especially people with children. I don’t know what to do, I don’t want to be polyamorous but my wife does. Even though she say how it broke me and told me to forget she even brought it up. I know this is what is in her heart. I just want to understand, I want to try and make this work but I don’t know how.
