I cannot tell you "what is common."
I can only tell you what *I* would like. I would find your daily contact requests overwhelming. Because I do not want nor need daily contact. I hate text. I hate phones. I am ok with email. Snail mail would be charming since nobody does that any more.
I'm from before cel phones and smartphones. Where you WAITED to do weekend night time long distance because that was the cheapest rate. This business of smartphones doing anywhere in the country day or night? Is sometimes really cool and other times? Really annoying.
People expect "instant gratification." Wanting everything NOW.
I don't like anyone yanking on my digital leash at all hours wanting my attention. So I ignore texts, calls. And screen them and deal with them when I'm ready to. I'm fine not hearing from people in a week or more. Cuz that's how it used to be for me anyway before gadgets and my personality is such where I'm ok without this much contact from other people.
Our first 4 weekends together were magical. We both commented on how we've never experienced something like this. Just a crazy deep connection that's so easy, open, sincere, honest, and vulnerable. She says and does the sweetest things. We provide great space for each other to express ourselves openly.
The past 2 weekends we haven't been able to get together and something just feels off energetically.
Was that 4 weekends in a row? Then a break for 2 weekends?
Labriola does a good article in
"Love in Abundance" about that
(0) independent ------(5) Neutral ------- (10) togetherness
spectrum and how people don't think to talk about it.
That's not quite how she had the drawing but close enough.
She's on here talking about "The Scale" at about 1:40 in.
I'm super alone/independent/introvert type. Probably like a 3 right now? I'd be great with a similar person and then to a neutral 5? That's not too big a gap to bridge. It could be workable.
I would be a
terrible match for a "super togetherness" 8, 9, or 10 person. That's too big a bridge to try to gap.
Nobody is "bad" or "wrong" for wanting the level they want. It's just not all are at the same level.
You sound like you don't LIKE long distance. So how about when you seek a new poly partner? You seek "in person" relationships no no "LDR" things? So you can skip the phone/text issues? You don't have to go for "lesser of two evils." Could skip both!
And then talk to the potential about the independent/togetherness thing and make sure you are more in alignment in personality, style, values, etc. Mere attraction does not equal initial compatibility. And initial compatibility is not DEEP compatibility. Love alone is not enough. Lots of things have to be in alignment to make a relationship sustainable.