Age Gaps

Since becoming single after a 30 year marriage, I have mostly dated people younger than me. I guess I am something of a cougar.

My serious partner is 22 years my junior. She and I have a ton in common, the age gap doesn't seem to make a bit of difference. It just enhances what we have, as we share things from our different eras.

When I was 54 I met a young man who was almost 21. We had a playpartner relationship for 2 years. That was the youngest guy I dated. I did have a 7 month relationship with someone was was 26 when we met, to my 55.

I got in the habit of dating younger men because the few men older than me that I met turned out to be too old fashioned for me.

Right now I am casually dating a guy who is 9 years older than me. He lied on his profile, shaving 5 years off. However, I find him youthful enough for me. He is in great shape, playful, and "cool." He isn't stuck in a rut, or rigid in his beliefs, and his libido is great.

I've never felt "creepy" dating much younger people. But I am a rule breaker and an outlaw! lol
 
Age differences don't concern me.

When I was monogamous, I was about 25 years younger than my wife (less than half her age when we got married). Now that I am poly, my two companions are about five years younger than me. [shrug] Which is fine, obviously.
 
JaneQSmythe said:
"half-your-age-plus-seven": The rule to define the youngest that a romantic interest can be before the relationship is indecent. (Urban Dictionary)
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:D Well, R. and I definitely failed by that formula. When we got together, I was 34 and she was just about to turn 21.

Nothing indecent about it, either.
 
Let's see... My largest age gap with someone older was 17 years, my largest age gap with someone younger was 11 years. The longest relationship with an age gap was 5 years with my ex-husband, who was 8 years older than me. The smallest age gap I've ever had was 1 year (with him being older. I've only ever been with one person younger than me).

People never cared one bit when I was the younger partner. There was much more fuss when I was dating someone younger than me (although most people actually thought the age gap was something like 5 years as he looks older and I look younger).
 
Punk is about 6 years older, Moonlight is 30 years older, and Fly is 10 years older. I've dated a few people close to my age, but I seem to click better with folks older than me.
 
I tend to rarely date anyone younger than me.... but I'm also only 29, so if I date guys too much younger I tend to struggle with the "we're not in the same place in life" type of situation. Currently my primary is 6 years older, secondary is 2 years older. Oldest I've dated was 10 years older than me, and that's probably getting pretty close to my max, though I don't have a hard line, so much as we'd need to have things in common, etc.
 
Looks like I've gotten indecent on a couple of occasions. I'm 45. I've been hanging out w men who were anywhere between 24 and 63 since my marriage ended. I had a great time w one of the 24 year olds, though it was just a one night stand (but I see him pop up in my okc visitor list quite a bit, so who knows!). And, this is seriously indecent, and may be due to a *senior moment*, but I can't for the life of me remember who the other 24 year old was, but I know there was another one. I think. Haha! I have had surprisingly good sex with these younguns! lol I thought they'd need some direction, but nope.

The people I have gotten close to are close to my age or older, though. I've been pretty steady w the 63 year old since October and I enjoy him a lot. The other guy I consider a keeper is 48.

Last night I met a guy who was so fun to dance with and maybe as addicted to salsa as I am. I was really wishing he was older. Looked to be about 30. Was being really sweet to me, but I couldn't tell if that was interest or if he just felt comfortable w me bc I was so old as to not even count. I'm gonna see him tonight, tho, and get to the bottom of it. And then after I go dancing I have a booty call w my 31 year old bartender friend.
 
Honestly, the younger guys tend to keep up with me much more, but I feel weird that they're so young. I couldnt ever take them seriously, when I was searching for serious.
 
I'm 26. I'm involved with one person who is about 28 years older than me, and flirting with one person who is 6 years younger. Those are the biggest gaps in either direction that I've had thus far.

Age in and of itself doesn't bother me as a factor. If the chemistry is there, it is there. I got burned really hard earlier this year by someone who wasn't paying attention (I don't hide my age) and decided I was entirely too young for them (22 years their junior) after a really solid initial chemistry. I hope that social stigma about age gaps goes away so that situations like that don't happen as often.
 
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"I hope that social stigma about age gaps goes away so that situations like that don't happen as often."
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Amen!
 
"Just interested"
-- Journeyofawakening
[shrug]
 
Dani, my wife is 12 years younger than me, the two main women we have had live with us were 20 years younger. There are not many women I meet that are older than me, so it is always younger. I seem to meet women that are in their 40s, I would prefer one about 50 like my wife. Her BF is a few years older than her. But we are close enough and like the same things
 
My biggest age gap was 22 yeas when I was 18. Mal is the only one younger than me and it is only by 8 months. Actually he's the first one within 5 years of my age, and I like it. But I've always been attracted to men in their 40's, so I wonder what will happen when I'm not in my 40's any more. Will I still like men in their 40's or will it go up?

Aladdin is MUCH younger than Djinn. In fact he is 4 years younger than my daughter's boyfreind (and it kind of freaks me out thinking about that), and when I first met him I thought about introducing him to my daughter because she wasn't seeing anyone at the time. A month after that I was super glad I hadn't because he was with Djinn!
 
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Aladdin is MUCH younger than Djinn. In fact he is 4 years younger than my daughter's boyfreind (and it kind of freaks me out thinking about that), and when I first met him I thought about introducing him to my daughter because she wasn't seeing anyone at the time. A month after that I was super glad I hadn't because he was with Djinn!
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Well, if he's poly... ;)
 
what is the matter about age if we dont even care about that ?
 
In my case, the rationale given was that for this particular man to date a woman so much younger than him would perpetuate toxic social tropes of older men with younger women and that it would reflect poorly on him and me.
 
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