Always looking to improve our m.m.f triad relationship. 💋
- Thread starter Cora_Sin
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Greetings Cora_Sin,
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It isn't hard for me to prioritize self-care, I'm a selfish person and that's okay with me. I hope you find your fourth, that would be a sweet ending for your current consideration and search. If I can be of help let me know. Welcome!
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"
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Welcome aboard!
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.
It isn't hard for me to prioritize self-care, I'm a selfish person and that's okay with me. I hope you find your fourth, that would be a sweet ending for your current consideration and search. If I can be of help let me know. Welcome!
Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"
Notes:
There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!
Please read through the guidelines if you haven't already.
Note: You needn't read every reply to your posts, especially if someone posts in a disagreeable way. Given the size and scope of the site it's hard not to run into the occasional disagreeable person. Please contact the mods if you do (or if you see any spam), and you can block the person if you want.
If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.
Welcome aboard!
Welcome. We generally ask that couples or more in a network each start their own profile, so the members know which one they are speaking with. At least, if one member is posting as part of a shared account, please sign it as that individual. Thanks!
Many poly people, to keep their sanity, think of themselves as their own primary, and see to their own needs before working hard to meet the needs of others. Unlike when you are raising a newborn infant, an adult's needs can generally be met eventually, unless there is a real emergency.
Carve out days where you do self-care.
Some triads and Vs who cohabit will make sure each person has their own room, if not for sleeping, for their hobbies.
Some triads all like to share a bed, while others like to have a night to themselves once a week or more.
Make sure you see other friends, each individually. Get your medical needs met. Clear your head in whatever way suits you best. Exercise regularly, eat the foods you like, practice your own interests, etc., etc.
Cora_Sin
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Thank you for the response, we do od these things. I guess i was just seeing what others say about there triad relationship. Or if thry are no longer in a triad what did they take from there situation everyone is different in there own thoughts, feelings all situations different one way or another. Example my triad relationship.
My husband and my Love Story, Expandes: happily "For over three decades and still is. Then, something beautiful and unexpected happened: our hearts expanded, making room for a new, incredible love. Welcoming our third partner into our lives wasn't just adding a person; it was adding new dimensions to our already fabulous intimacy, and connection. Every day, we're learning what it means to love more deeply, more openly, and with more room for everyone's unique Journey.
The Unspoken Language of Touch: "Beyond the words, there's a profound language we share - the language of touch and intimacy. The chemistry between all three of us is undeniable, a vibrant current that grounds us, excites us, and reminds us of the powerful bonds we share. It's a joyful, passionate expression of our love, and it's a vital part of what makes our triad feel so uniquely ours.""
Navigating the Tides Together: "Even the deepest love, the waters can sometimes get little choppy. We're learning that while love brings us together, navigating individual emotions and different needs is an ongoing process. There are moments when it feels like I'm holding space for both my husband's and our third's separate journeys, trying to bridge gaps, wishing they could always see eye-to-eye and lean into direct conversation more often. It's a constant dance patience, empathy, and sometimes, quiet hope for a more shared effort in those moments of
disconnect.
My husband and my Love Story, Expandes: happily "For over three decades and still is. Then, something beautiful and unexpected happened: our hearts expanded, making room for a new, incredible love. Welcoming our third partner into our lives wasn't just adding a person; it was adding new dimensions to our already fabulous intimacy, and connection. Every day, we're learning what it means to love more deeply, more openly, and with more room for everyone's unique Journey. The Unspoken Language of Touch: "Beyond the words, there's a profound language we share - the language of touch and intimacy. The chemistry between all three of us is undeniable, a vibrant current that grounds us, excites us, and reminds us of the powerful bonds we share. It's a joyful, passionate expression of our love, and it's a vital part of what makes our triad feel so uniquely ours.""Navigating the Tides Together: "Even the deepest love, the waters can sometimes get little choppy. We're learning that while love brings us together, navigating individual emotions and different needs is an ongoing process. There are moments when it feels like I'm holding space for both my husband's and our third's separate journeys, trying to bridge gaps, wishing they could always see eye-to-eye and lean into direct conversation more often. It's a constant dance patience, empathy, and sometimes, quiet hope for a more shared effort in those moments of
disconnect.
When I was in my early 20's (I'm 50-something now) I was in a MFF triad that lasted nearly 2 years. At the time, it was my longest, most profound r'ship.
I was dating the guy, then the girl joined our friend group, we both started seeing her separately, then throupled up. We were all sleeping with other people too. At first, it was rainbows and unicorns. Then the dynamics shifted. They became primary, I was sort of secondary (we didn't have language for this yet, "polyamory" wasn't a word we knew.) I was madly in love with her. She was crazy in love with him. He and I had less connection. I left them, they immediately got married and still are!!!
So this was a long time ago, but one thing I remember was a big problem for me: they were both extroverts, while I'm an introvert. At the time, my FOMO wouldn't let me ever spend time alone. I HAD to be where they were, do what they were doing, or I felt left out. They always wanted people over, or to go out to the club. I often found myself spent, strung-out and tired from not getting enough alone time with my girlfriend, or enough alone time with myself. During that 2 years, I pretty much let any ambitions or hobbies fall to the wayside. My bandwidth was fully taken up with preserving my triad.
But for the brief time when we were balanced and it actually worked....magic. When it fell apart....ouch. Best of luck!
I was dating the guy, then the girl joined our friend group, we both started seeing her separately, then throupled up. We were all sleeping with other people too. At first, it was rainbows and unicorns. Then the dynamics shifted. They became primary, I was sort of secondary (we didn't have language for this yet, "polyamory" wasn't a word we knew.) I was madly in love with her. She was crazy in love with him. He and I had less connection. I left them, they immediately got married and still are!!!
So this was a long time ago, but one thing I remember was a big problem for me: they were both extroverts, while I'm an introvert. At the time, my FOMO wouldn't let me ever spend time alone. I HAD to be where they were, do what they were doing, or I felt left out. They always wanted people over, or to go out to the club. I often found myself spent, strung-out and tired from not getting enough alone time with my girlfriend, or enough alone time with myself. During that 2 years, I pretty much let any ambitions or hobbies fall to the wayside. My bandwidth was fully taken up with preserving my triad.
But for the brief time when we were balanced and it actually worked....magic. When it fell apart....ouch. Best of luck!