Am I getting better or worse? (cheating wife)

I also avoid accepting confidences that are supposed to be kept from my partner(s). Sometimes one has to make an exception, but I mostly don't owe people the burden of having to consider whether or not I can talk about something privately.

SNeacail said:
She is acting like a spoiled teenager with absolutely no regard for the people she claims to love and wants to keep in her life.
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I've known plenty of teenaged women who treat people with respect. I didn't even realise that this stereotype existed.
 
jkelly said:
I've known plenty of teenaged women who treat people with respect. I didn't even realise that this stereotype existed.
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I am actually basing this on my personal experience with teenagers. Most of the time they can be polite, kind and respectful, unless you are the mom. Then they truly can't understand why you don't agree with their selfish decisions and why you require them to act differently. I hear "but this makes me happy," accompanied with, "no one else has said anything," or "my friends agree with me." Of course, there is always, "you just don't understand."
 
This is so funny, I had to share. Nick saying they had to slow down this week for Nora's and my anniversary? Get this:

Tuesday- a concert. Nick and maybe Maya are going. He wants us to carpool.
Wednesday- a race. He's running. I'm sure they're betting sexual favors on it. And he'll be at the after-party.
Thursday- 2 parties. He'll be at both (on our actual anniversary).
Weekend- to be determined
 
Seems like a positive sign that you're starting to stand up for some boundaries for yourself. Now that you've reached that healthier place, have you considered putting a hit out on him? I'd guess you'd be too upset to have your wife assassinated as well, but still, might be for the best.

Anyhow, if you like this idea, I'm available... cheap!

Anotherbo ;)

P.S. This is a test of the emergency hitman system. This is only a test. If this were an actual emergency, a hitman would be outside your door already.
 
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SNeacail said:
I am actually basing this on my personal experience with teenagers. Most of the time they can be polite, kind and respectful (unless you are the mom). They truely can't understand why you don't agree with their selfish decisions and why they need to act differently. "but this makes me happy" "no one else has said anything" "my friends agree with me" "you just don't understand"
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As a recent former teenager... yeah. Some of my friends should have put "But it makes me happy and I need to do what I have to do" on repeat and saved their vocal cords. And some bitches don't grow up.

DazednConfused said:
Tuesday- concert
Wednesday- race, after-party
Thursday- 2 parties, he'll be at both (our anniversary)
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Break? My black ass. Fuck. That. Shit.
 
Now that you've reached that healthier place, have you considered putting a hit out on him? I'd guess you'd be too upset to have your wife assassinated as well, but still, might be for the best.
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LOL! Yes, I have. BTW, if I weren't already married... You have no idea how good your timing was!

I asked her yesterday to not use our bed anymore. She quickly agreed. On Sunday I made a "mess'" on the couch, and forgot to clean it. Last night we're sitting on the couch watching TV. She says to me, "Well, you don't have to bother cleaning your stain off the couch now." I just burst into tears and couldn't stop.

I went outside for a smoke and read this. Laughed my ass off.
 
anotherbo said:
P.S. This is a test of the emergency hitman system. This is only a test. If this were an actual emergency, a hitman would be outside your door already.
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Fucking lol :p

We all have your back, Dazed, in one way or another! :)
 
Thanks folks! I am committing myself to try not to get too pissed at any one event this week. There are going to be lots to choose from.

While we had some great talks today, Nora forwarded me some correspondence between her and Nick. She wanted some advice. I snapped a little, but quickly got over it.

Gonna head home soon to head out to the Foreigner concert. Me, Nora, Nick, Maya.

I'm going to try to make the best of all this, this week, if it kills me... And it just might.
 
Laying off the alcohol might help. I don't know about you, but it keeps me from noticing what arises in me when stuff is going down. I don't notice my body's reaction to stuff, and I rely hugely on my gut reactions. Who knows? You might learn something.

In the meantime, what of the week off? That's no week off, as far as I can gather.
 
So, I've come to the conclusion, right or wrong, his "Lay off for anniversary week" has nothing to do with our anniversary. Shocking, I know.

Yesterday, about 4PM, Nora tells me Nick's been a dick to her all day.

We go to the concert. We beat them there. They get there. He doesn't find us. He texts us where he and Maya are, to come to them. I don't protest. I let my girl make her own mistakes. We go up front to them.

He is very disconnected with both Nora and Maya. In fact, he really only talks to me.

The concert is great. During one slow song, my wife acts like my wife. She put her arms around me, we kiss, dance, sing.

In the beginning of the song, we both notice Nick doesn't even put his arms around Maya, and the tears are just streaming down her face. Nora reaches out and touches her shoulder. Later in the song, she's still crying. I give her a reassuring touch on the arm. My heart absolutely bleeds for this woman. Nick is such an emotionally abusive prick. He eventually holds her, half-assed, after I reached out to her.

Well, long story short, even though we had a great time at the show, Nora is upset all the way home about Nick. I just try to be a friend. Her blood sugar is high when we got home, and we go to sleep. *pouts*

I get up this AM, and believe the body snatchers have invaded and taken my spouse. She's affectionate, attentive, and just incredible, the woman I fell in love with. She's someone I don't remember seeing in years, so much so, that after she leaves, I send her a text: "Are you ok?" I just don't get it.
 
Hmmm, could their little fling be coming to an end?
 
Honestly, I don't think so. I think he's just playing her. I think he's acting "hard-to-get" to excite the situation more.

Well, tonight it'll just be the three of us at the race after-party. Should be interesting. :sick:
 
Yeah, coming to an end, I would say. You have what no idea what Nick's conversations with Maya have been like.

Again, so much for the "week alone." I see no "alone" here. Are you and Nora actually going to do something "alone?"

It sounds like Nora is desperately trying to hold on to what she had with you.
 
God, I'd be so ripshit my wife was dating such an unsuitable lying prick. I'd have nothing to do with their dates. I'd refuse to go along. It's all just so wrong!
 
Tiny update. Nora was too nervous about tonight. She said she didn't think she/we/they were ready. I told her to go without me, and she agreed.:(
 
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