NewCrobuzon
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I looked around at some of the advice threads in the "Links to Other Threads Worth Reading" sticky, but most of them dealt with things like, "I'm Poly and I'm Dating a Mono!" or "I'm poly and I can't find a bicycle built for four!" In summary, I didn't see much advice for people still trying to figure out if they're polyamorous at all, so I hope y'all don't mind one more thread of confused complaining (i.e. this one.)
As I mentioned in my intro thread, I'm in a loving long term essentially mono relationship. I've recently started to get heart fluttery feelings for this woman we've been hanging around and having sex with. This leads me to believe I might be wired to love more than one person at a time.
On the other hand, I've always been prone to taking my own feelings too seriously. In high school, I thought every crush was true love, and I tended to get horribly depressed over nothing. I believe this stemmed from a lack of parental affection in childhood: I had an extreme craving for any form of love and affection to make up for the lack of these interactions elsewhere. And the thing is, these heart fluttery feelings I'm getting nowadays are quite reminiscent of the ones I got as a teenage idiot.
So, am I polyamorous? Or am I just receding into my juvenile misunderstanding of love? Am I falling in love with this other woman? Or is this a fleeting crush like the dozens I worked through and forgot about as a teenager?
Does anyone have any similar feelings or experiences?
As I mentioned in my intro thread, I'm in a loving long term essentially mono relationship. I've recently started to get heart fluttery feelings for this woman we've been hanging around and having sex with. This leads me to believe I might be wired to love more than one person at a time.
On the other hand, I've always been prone to taking my own feelings too seriously. In high school, I thought every crush was true love, and I tended to get horribly depressed over nothing. I believe this stemmed from a lack of parental affection in childhood: I had an extreme craving for any form of love and affection to make up for the lack of these interactions elsewhere. And the thing is, these heart fluttery feelings I'm getting nowadays are quite reminiscent of the ones I got as a teenage idiot.
So, am I polyamorous? Or am I just receding into my juvenile misunderstanding of love? Am I falling in love with this other woman? Or is this a fleeting crush like the dozens I worked through and forgot about as a teenager?
Does anyone have any similar feelings or experiences?