First I want to say that I'm only on here occasionally. I was an active lurker when my triad formed 5 years ago, but these days I only visit occasionally. That must be how I missed this thread to start with!
My FFM triad is ~5 years old. I will refer to my husband (married legally) as Kay and my partner as Em. We have one child born prior to the triad forming and two babies who are about one year old. Our babies were born within a few days of each other, one from me and one from Em. So we've experienced a double pregnancy too, along with fertility issues before getting pregnant.
We have navigated many of the issues discussed here, and then some! I will say that generally 'dyad time' was way more important in the beginning of the relationship than it is today. We are in the trenches of our careers and kids so, as most couples experience, any adult time we get together is pure gold. These days we rarely have dyad sex, it's almost always the three of us. This is because we are super-strapped for time, and our only opportunities are when all the kids are asleep, like after 9pm. Afternoon delights are a thing of the past (and hopefully the future)!! That said, I realize a previous poster said threesome sex is more 'work,' and I would say that it no longer feels this way to us. Doing everything as a throuple became second nature at some point.
But to get to this point, we've had to communicate harder than I've ever communicated in my whole life. We bare it all to each other. Even when someone needs to run away from a conversation, it's never for more than a few hours. We talk about EVERYTHING!
I'd be happy to answer any PMs or direct questions from people. I will try to check back on this thread every so often.
My FFM triad is ~5 years old. I will refer to my husband (married legally) as Kay and my partner as Em. We have one child born prior to the triad forming and two babies who are about one year old. Our babies were born within a few days of each other, one from me and one from Em. So we've experienced a double pregnancy too, along with fertility issues before getting pregnant.
We have navigated many of the issues discussed here, and then some! I will say that generally 'dyad time' was way more important in the beginning of the relationship than it is today. We are in the trenches of our careers and kids so, as most couples experience, any adult time we get together is pure gold. These days we rarely have dyad sex, it's almost always the three of us. This is because we are super-strapped for time, and our only opportunities are when all the kids are asleep, like after 9pm. Afternoon delights are a thing of the past (and hopefully the future)!! That said, I realize a previous poster said threesome sex is more 'work,' and I would say that it no longer feels this way to us. Doing everything as a throuple became second nature at some point.
But to get to this point, we've had to communicate harder than I've ever communicated in my whole life. We bare it all to each other. Even when someone needs to run away from a conversation, it's never for more than a few hours. We talk about EVERYTHING!
I'd be happy to answer any PMs or direct questions from people. I will try to check back on this thread every so often.
