Baby

[KiraK85]

Okay, so, my husband and I have been talking to a girl we’ve been dating for the last 4 years on and off. She knows that we’ve been trying to get pregnant for the last 7 years. My husband and I have even talked about how, if she got pregnant instead of me, I would accept that child as mine, as well.

Now I’m 6 months pregnant and we’ve moved into her house. She’s still jealous at the thought of my husband and me sleeping in the same room. She says she can’t really look at me without thinking about us having sex. She tells my husband that she doesn’t want to hear us having sex, which we don’t, out of respect for her.

She and I haven’t done anything with each other, but they had sex once without me. We both flirted with her and made her feel wanted. She and I have gotten closer to becoming more than friends. Without the intimacy, we’ve invited her into our bed.

My husband sometimes puts her before me, especially now that we’ve moved in with her. He does more for her than me, and I’m pregnant. Why is she acting like this when she knows always first in my book and with my husband?

 

[Jimmmm]

Hi, KiraK85. It will really help us to read and respond to what you wrote if you divide your two very, very long sentences into several more (and start sentences with capital letters and end them with periods).

 

[KiraK85]

I fixed

 

[GalaGirl]

I'm sorry you struggle.

Why was it "on and off" for 4 years? Why not just stay broken up?

Why move this lady into your home when you are pregnant and will soon have a newborn infant to deal with?

Without the intimacy, we’ve invited her into our bed.

Why? For what purpose? Even if you aren't sharing sex, why does this have to happen? Can't people have their own rooms/beds? Does this floorplan have enough bedrooms for that, including room for the baby?

She knows that we’ve been trying to get pregnant for the last 7 years. My husband and I have even talked about how if she got pregnant instead of me, I would accept that child as mine, as well.

Do you even still feel that way? Does the lady? Husband? Or not so much any more? Are Lady and your husband still trying to get pregnant? She's mad because you got pregnant first?

Things here sound... odd.

It's hard to advise you when I don't even know what you are looking for, or what your desired outcome is.

Were you thinking this was going to be a cohabitating triad or something?

Galagirl

 

[kdt26417]

Hi KiraK85,

I don't know why she's acting like this, your husband does more for her than you (even when you're pregnant), so she should be satisfied with that. She even had sex with him one time without you -- or is that what's bothering her, she wants more one-on-one sex with him? I am just fishing around for possible answers.

Regards,
Kevin T.

 

[Magdlyn]

Okay, so, my husband and I have been talking to a girl we’ve been dating for the last 4 years on and off. She knows that we’ve been trying to get pregnant for the last 7 years. My husband and I have even talked about how, if she got pregnant instead of me, I would accept that child as mine, as well.

Now I’m 6 months pregnant and we’ve moved into her house.

Why did you and husband move into this woman's house? Are you all "dating" now? Are either of you intimate with her sexually, ever? Is she trying to conceive with your husband?

She’s still jealous at the thought of my husband and me sleeping in the same room. She says she can’t really look at me without thinking about us having sex. She tells my husband that she doesn’t want to hear us having sex, which we don’t, out of respect for her.

Okay, so you keep it quiet when you and hubs have sex, or don't do it unless she's out, or something.

She and I haven’t done anything with each other, but they had sex once without me. We both flirted with her and made her feel wanted. She and I have gotten closer to becoming more than friends. Without the intimacy, we’ve invited her into our bed.

I don't understand. Your husband and you are dating this woman, but hardly ever having sex with her, either one-on-one or individually? Does she get to sleep, actually, sleep, in the same bed with either of you?

What is the purpose of this relationship?

My husband sometimes puts her before me, especially now that we’ve moved in with her. He does more for her than me, and I’m pregnant. Why is she acting like this when she knows always first in my book and with my husband?

He helps her? But he doesn't have sex with her or sleep with her? And you don't sleep with her or have sex with her, but you somehow want to live with her? Why?

Do you need more help? Can you just ask your husband for more help, without comparing how much help the other woman is getting?