Delawareginger
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Boyfriend of 11 months and I were in an open relationship due to being long distance. I went out every month, at least once or twice to visit. We facetimed and texted daily and had an overall great relationship based on open communication, honesty, and trust. We were both new to an open relationship but we agreed to give it a shot. Our initial rules were no sleepovers, protection, and no romantic partners. Despite one or two hiccups dealing with oversharing, which we healthily worked through, everything was okay. Recently I had a hookup where the condom broke. Before switching to a new one I got caught up in the moment and continued. I corrected this behavior immediately about 15 seconds later and felt awful about it. After the hookup I immediately called him to let him know what happened and to apologize. Initially he said he was either angry or annoyed but didn’t know. I told him to take the time to process. The next day he told me that he became more angry about it and that the relationship was broken beyond repair. Afterwards he broke things off. I had planned to move my entire life out there within the next two months but now I’m not sure. I’m torn between beating myself up over cheating, as that’s what he sees this as, and thinking there had to be more to the breakup than just this. I know I hurt him deeply but I am in such a state of friend because my love for him is just as strong as it was before the incident happened. Im not sure if he needs more time to process or if what I did was really enough to end a previously strong and healthy relationship. What should I do?