Broken relationship; needs help

Zammie78

Zammie78

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Broken up with my poly boyfriend and it is hard. His explaination was that I didn't know myself but I am mono and deal with poly with a difficult: to explain to someone like him. ETC. He always said that I was trying too hard. I must admit it I was at TIMES ! but nothing over the top. I have expanded my horizons to a brand new world, This heartbreak hurts SO much ! In a way it feels like a have given so much of myself and yet I get this heartbreak? I have fallen for him. I want to scream and cry all this over the phone! Not thru a text as he broken up with me. Does it always hurts this much ? Any help ?
 
Hi Zammie,

So sorry to hear about your breakup. It is clear that you are suffering. I don't understand why your (ex) poly boyfriend said the things he said to you. It seems to me that you have tried your best. I don't know how you could get him to get back together with you, but maybe it's for the best if he's going to abandon you like that?

I hope we can at least help by extending our sympathies and perspectives.
Sincerely,
Kevin T.
 
I am sorry you are hurting.

Breaking up with you over text doesn't sound like the way you like to be broken up with. Neither does him saying you don't know yourself or that you try too hard. Like he's making you be the "problem" and criticizing you as a person rather than it being a "we just are not compatible" situation. There's a difference.

I know it hurts, but try not to take it personally. It's unfortunate you are not compatible, but you remember you do have dignity, worth and value all on you own. Apart from this relationship.

You can expect to keep going through the stages of grief -- and over time hopefully you will start to feel better. It just hurts when it is fresh.

Again, I am sorry.

Galagirl
 
I am so sorry you are grieving. Relationship loss is so hard.

However like GG said, you are of worth outside this relationship. No one can take your worth unless you let them, including the boyfriend.

We are here if you want to grieve or talk or rant. I also agree that he is blaming you as a person and not the situation, or even talking about specific behaviours.
Also I find it disrespectful and rude to break up via text. Move on to some one better, you are worth more than to be treated that way. :)

Hoping your heart heals soon.
 
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