Hey Everyone,
I am happy that I found this forum.
I am 39 years old (very soon to be 40 ) and have a 17 years old daughter. I have lived in a monogamous marriage for over 14 years, however I think I have always been open to poliamory, or "poli ways of thinking" in a way, even during my marriage. I have never been cheating on anyone ever, always tried to be honest, which was very difficult with someone who wanted to owe me fully, and also because I have never heard of poliamory before, I did not know how to communicate what I feel.
However, after my marriage ended I met my current partner. He has a wife, which I have known about from the beginning. They have an open relationship in a way, so his wife has known about me from the beginning too. In a way I think she was not entirely OK with our relationship, because it became much more serious than it should have been (according to what they agreed on), so this triangle became something new for everyone, the rules changed on the go.
After 2,5 years of relationship we have been introduced to each other with his wife and daughter and it seemed this was a positive change to the relationship(s). Now we all live together which has started with me looking for a new apartment to buy and having issues with the owner of the apartment I rented (I had to leave immediately so they helped me by moving me to their house). Now it has been decided it would be great if I also live here. My partner says he likes that I am also here, and it seems his wife also does not mind it, we like each other a lot. We as a "triad" are still new to poliamor relationship in this depth, so we are on a learning path, all of us.
I am straight so I do not have romantic relationship with my partner's wife, is it more like a friendship or something close (bit less and bit more in the same time).
I thought it would be great to register to this forum because I cannot really talk about this much with anyone but them, and it would also be great to read about others and maybe to find some new friends who has similar ways of thinking. So I am also very open to get to know others who are interested.
Thanks for reading through
I am happy that I found this forum.
I am 39 years old (very soon to be 40 ) and have a 17 years old daughter. I have lived in a monogamous marriage for over 14 years, however I think I have always been open to poliamory, or "poli ways of thinking" in a way, even during my marriage. I have never been cheating on anyone ever, always tried to be honest, which was very difficult with someone who wanted to owe me fully, and also because I have never heard of poliamory before, I did not know how to communicate what I feel.
However, after my marriage ended I met my current partner. He has a wife, which I have known about from the beginning. They have an open relationship in a way, so his wife has known about me from the beginning too. In a way I think she was not entirely OK with our relationship, because it became much more serious than it should have been (according to what they agreed on), so this triangle became something new for everyone, the rules changed on the go.
After 2,5 years of relationship we have been introduced to each other with his wife and daughter and it seemed this was a positive change to the relationship(s). Now we all live together which has started with me looking for a new apartment to buy and having issues with the owner of the apartment I rented (I had to leave immediately so they helped me by moving me to their house). Now it has been decided it would be great if I also live here. My partner says he likes that I am also here, and it seems his wife also does not mind it, we like each other a lot. We as a "triad" are still new to poliamor relationship in this depth, so we are on a learning path, all of us.
I am straight so I do not have romantic relationship with my partner's wife, is it more like a friendship or something close (bit less and bit more in the same time).
I thought it would be great to register to this forum because I cannot really talk about this much with anyone but them, and it would also be great to read about others and maybe to find some new friends who has similar ways of thinking. So I am also very open to get to know others who are interested.
Thanks for reading through