Simple go to the last word and hit returnit drops it down.
Has it been months or years that youāve been in a poly dynamic?
Are all potential candidates from swinging encounters?
Lasting? Is there a pattern? Just wondering if it could be NRE, or an expectations issue.
Coming from the swinging background the mindset is us "adding people to our marriageā where, in fact, the old marriage is dead and gone and something new is being built on the old site with some salvaged materials. Thereās a mourning phase and a complete recalibration of expectations.
Not exactly open and honest communication. Maybe pick/ hammer at that in counseling to get the truth.
Do you or gf think your NRE was offensive? I know apologies were extended and that didnāt seem to fix the slight. BOTTOM LINE, romantic relationships cause NRE is a big part of why people do this. Fucking all sides have to deal with NRE is another fact.
Was you wifeās routine similar? Did you split those weekends and nights or did they run concurrently?
I meant to say DV as putting you one step closer to divorce, or helping push you toward that direction, on top of the poly nonsense.
I am on mobile so not sure how to hit that exactly.
Anyway, Iāll keep the paragraphs going since it seems to work.
None of our swinging partners turned into poly. We have been poly for 3 years at this point.
That trip was the only time she had to deal with our NRE as a couple. I have had to deal with her NRE before as well. It is equally shared.
Yes, the NRE was inappropriate. I would NOT have apologized otherwise. I try not to apologize for things unless I truly feel remorse. This has been a hard thing for me to work on, as I used to have horrible people-pleasing problems.
I do feel like the splitting time issue is very one-sided. She many times just goes and does her thing, but asks me to check in with her and limit my time away from the house.
I understand what you were saying now about DV. Hopefully my confusion was understandable.