Me and my wife are currently in a pod with another couple and have been very careful about covid precautions. We have recently opened our marriage and I have been talking to a potential partner who is outside of our pod and unfortunately does not take quite the same precautions as us. My pod and I have agreed that it would be appropriate, and consistent with our current covid precautions, for me to be tested and self-isolate for three days after dates where we kiss or are indoors together unmasked. This is not an issue for my wife, since she is exclusively dating within the pod. My prospective partner has raised several concerns around fair treatment, couples privilege, being treated as unclean, and associating our contact with my isolation. I can certainly appreciate how it would make it difficult to move the relationship forward organically and many of her other concerns, but I worry that I don't properly appreciate the dynamics around couples privilege and her being treated as an outsider. I understand that rules created without her input can create unhealthy dynamics, but am inclined to treat this in the same way as a concern about safe sex; that is one of the few situations where the third parties placed at risk need to be strongly emphasized, not only for their safety but as a check against NRE causing risks to be ignored.
I really want to be able to treat this person as respectfully as possible, so could some of you articulate the concerns you would have in a similar situation so I can properly check myself and empathize?
I really want to be able to treat this person as respectfully as possible, so could some of you articulate the concerns you would have in a similar situation so I can properly check myself and empathize?