drinnt
New member
Hi Gang,
It's been a LONG time since I posted here. I have been in a poly-fidelitous quad that started in swinger roots for three years. Fall 2014 our quad broke into two V's and for over a year that has been working better and better for us. Three years of polyamory under my belt and I'm branching out.
Last year we all opened our marriages and relationships. My first date was a disaster, certainly was not "dating my species" as Minx says on her polyamory weekly podcast. Plus my wife and I had a hard time finding our way through the process and I fell back into my V for security.
Now I'm branching out in earnest. I was stereotypically "not looking" for anyone and I met someone at a kink event that I felt a connection and chemistry with. We went on a date and it was amazing. It has sparked a lot of thought and now that it appears we have the ingredients to make something of it I am being told...
"I am curious to know what role I will play in your life..." This is a wonderful question and it's one I am curious to know the answer my potential future partner has as well. Clearly we have a lot of awesome conversation to have as we move forward.
My question to all of you is...wow, I'm finding myself at a huge poly threshold here and I'm looking for advice on how to best sort through my own shit to get down to a concise answer here. I know what I want, sure...but what's the best way to sort through all those "what if's" and "uknowns" to come up with a concise way of COMMUNICATING this one? Anyone have thoughts / experiences to share? Best practices? LOL (hate that term)
I feel like my wife and I have so much learning, evolving and growing to do - as well as myself - so my head is swimming with all these connections and emotional directions. Plus it's my first time in a 3rd potential relationship. I don't want to frak it up if I can help it. I would rather it go no where than go disastrously.
It's been a LONG time since I posted here. I have been in a poly-fidelitous quad that started in swinger roots for three years. Fall 2014 our quad broke into two V's and for over a year that has been working better and better for us. Three years of polyamory under my belt and I'm branching out.
Last year we all opened our marriages and relationships. My first date was a disaster, certainly was not "dating my species" as Minx says on her polyamory weekly podcast. Plus my wife and I had a hard time finding our way through the process and I fell back into my V for security.
Now I'm branching out in earnest. I was stereotypically "not looking" for anyone and I met someone at a kink event that I felt a connection and chemistry with. We went on a date and it was amazing. It has sparked a lot of thought and now that it appears we have the ingredients to make something of it I am being told...
"I am curious to know what role I will play in your life..." This is a wonderful question and it's one I am curious to know the answer my potential future partner has as well. Clearly we have a lot of awesome conversation to have as we move forward.
My question to all of you is...wow, I'm finding myself at a huge poly threshold here and I'm looking for advice on how to best sort through my own shit to get down to a concise answer here. I know what I want, sure...but what's the best way to sort through all those "what if's" and "uknowns" to come up with a concise way of COMMUNICATING this one? Anyone have thoughts / experiences to share? Best practices? LOL (hate that term)
I feel like my wife and I have so much learning, evolving and growing to do - as well as myself - so my head is swimming with all these connections and emotional directions. Plus it's my first time in a 3rd potential relationship. I don't want to frak it up if I can help it. I would rather it go no where than go disastrously.