My last poly experience didn't work out so well on either end. It was something that we had not discussed before because we never expected me to find a woman that I connected with. He approved of me experimenting just didn't know how me being in 2 relationships at once would effect both of us. I hurt him so bad. I don't know the full extent how I hurt him because he won't talk to me. I don't want to make the same mistake twice so I am trying to learn from past mistakes.
Some of the boundaries that he set is realistic and I do agree with them.
Like him meeting her (he didn't get to meet the last one). Rules set by her husband.
My husband is set on a full triad. He wants the relationships to be completely equal.
It is difficult to find a woman who I feel comfortable with and want to have a relationship with. It took me 8 years to find the first woman. My husband is 65 and I am 36 so finding someone who would like to be with both of us is going to be impossible.
I don't even think that I want a triad. I loved the separation of the two relationships from the last experience.
I don't know if most of that was still NRE running wild, but I felt like a different person when I was with her than when I am with him. I know that part of that was self discovery on both mine and her parts. I don't mind them being friends, I want them to get along, but I really don't want him to be there when I am with her intimately.
Being in a triad would mean he would want to be involved sexually too.
I know one of the major problems we are having right now is communication.
What do you do when you have different needs and wants in a poly relationship without hurting the other partner?
Some of the boundaries that he set is realistic and I do agree with them.
Like him meeting her (he didn't get to meet the last one). Rules set by her husband.
My husband is set on a full triad. He wants the relationships to be completely equal.
It is difficult to find a woman who I feel comfortable with and want to have a relationship with. It took me 8 years to find the first woman. My husband is 65 and I am 36 so finding someone who would like to be with both of us is going to be impossible.
I don't even think that I want a triad. I loved the separation of the two relationships from the last experience.
I don't know if most of that was still NRE running wild, but I felt like a different person when I was with her than when I am with him. I know that part of that was self discovery on both mine and her parts. I don't mind them being friends, I want them to get along, but I really don't want him to be there when I am with her intimately.
Being in a triad would mean he would want to be involved sexually too.
I know one of the major problems we are having right now is communication.
What do you do when you have different needs and wants in a poly relationship without hurting the other partner?