Hello,
Recently my wife and I have opened our marriage. We established boundaries and have had many discussions about this. I initially was on board with it but now I’m struggling. She wants to continue to be open but I don’t know if I can. Looking for advice on how to navigate this.
It’s a little bit about jealousy. When she has been with the person she has been talking to my mind races about what they are doing. We agreed to allow it and i know i shouldn’t be worried about what they are doing, but it does bother me.
I also have had a difficult time putting myself out there when it comes to someone else. Part of it is that I am worried about rejection and it’s bringing some insecurity out in me. The other part is that I don’t really know if I want to pursue something with someone else.
Are you thinking about doing a mono/poly relationship? one where you are monogamous, while your wife is polyamorous? Regardless, I have some jealousy/insecurity links you can try.
I don’t think I could be in a mono/poly relationship. I have noticed I struggle with being alone while she is with the person she has been connecting with. Thank you for the reads. It has put some light on what is going on.
I don’t think I could be in a mono/poly relationship. I have noticed I struggle with being alone while she is with the person she has been connecting with.
There are things you can do to "not be alone" when wife is on a date, other than being on a date yourself. You can see friends or family, or do a team sport, go to the gym, play D&D, go shopping, or any other of a thousand social activities.
And if you are mono, and happen to be alone, and don't feel like going out, take part in an absorbing hobby.
Heck, I am poly, and I have two partners, and sometimes I am with my bf while my gf is with her bf, but sometimes I choose to be alone.
Hello,
Recently my wife and I have opened our marriage. We've established boundaries and have had many discussions about this. Initially I was on board with it, but now I’m struggling. She wants to continue to be open, but I don’t know if I can. Looking for advice on how to navigate this.
Why or how did you decide to open your marriage?
What, if any, research did you do individually or as a couple prior to opening?
How long have you been married?
Do you have children?
Typically, depending on the amount of time they’ve been open, or connections made, it’s more about revoking participation than consent. Kiss “consent“ goodbye after a point, and it becomes a matter of practical reality bowing out or walking away.
Typically, depending on the amount of time they’ve been open, or connections made, it’s more about revoking participation than consent. Kiss “consent“ goodbye after a point, and it becomes a matter of practical reality bowing out or walking away.
Update, we did not do enough research before opening our marriage. We have decided to close it for now and continue to have an open and informed discussion about possibly opening it in the future. We realized through this that the needs weren’t being met and we want to work on that before possibly opening it up. Thank you all for the information you gave me.
