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Hi RH,
Are you saying that your partner has been lacking in physical sensation during sex with you, and that you suspect that the large toys her other partner uses on her are the culprit? If so, then you need your partner's partner -- your metamour -- to use smaller toys. Have you said this to your partner? If so, how did she react?
Other than that, I can't think of any solutions other than for your partner to consult her doctor (and/or a sexual specialist) about the problem. Again this hints at your involvement. You ask your partner to see a doctor about the problem, and your partner reacts -- however she's going to react. What will you do if she says no?
If I have misinterpreted your situation, let me know.
Sincerely,
Kevin T.
Are you saying that your partner has been lacking in physical sensation during sex with you, and that you suspect that the large toys her other partner uses on her are the culprit? If so, then you need your partner's partner -- your metamour -- to use smaller toys. Have you said this to your partner? If so, how did she react?
Other than that, I can't think of any solutions other than for your partner to consult her doctor (and/or a sexual specialist) about the problem. Again this hints at your involvement. You ask your partner to see a doctor about the problem, and your partner reacts -- however she's going to react. What will you do if she says no?
If I have misinterpreted your situation, let me know.
Sincerely,
Kevin T.
So if I were to put it bluntly, I would say that your partner has become "loose" down there, and as a result you can't feel anything (or you can't feel enough) when you penetrate her. Is this a more accurate interpretation than my previous one? If I am still off track let me know.
The core issue here still seems to be that you need your partner to do something that your partner is unwilling to do. Perhaps I might add that you could consult your doctor (and/or a sexual specialist). But the large toys do seem to be the real culprit here.
The core issue here still seems to be that you need your partner to do something that your partner is unwilling to do. Perhaps I might add that you could consult your doctor (and/or a sexual specialist). But the large toys do seem to be the real culprit here.
What do you mean when you say "loss of physical sensation?" You're losing your erections? Your penis is feeling numb? Something else?
Maybe you you could wear a penis sheath or penis sleeve if you wanted more sensations, or a tighter feeling on your penis. Or you could try different positions, or do other activities besides PIV.
Depending on your ages, maybe you should think about the changes in pelvic floor/core muscles that come with age. Those pelvic floor exercises aren't just for women.
Galagirl
Maybe you you could wear a penis sheath or penis sleeve if you wanted more sensations, or a tighter feeling on your penis. Or you could try different positions, or do other activities besides PIV.
Depending on your ages, maybe you should think about the changes in pelvic floor/core muscles that come with age. Those pelvic floor exercises aren't just for women.
Galagirl
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Albert Ross
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This seems like a tough question to respond to without more information. What sort of toys and what sort of body parts are involved here? 
If, as folks seem to assume, OP is suggesting their partner's vagina is becoming widened/loosened by the insertion of large toys, such that PIV sex is no longer pleasurable... well, I don't have a vagina but I was under the impression they don't work that way?
If, as folks seem to assume, OP is suggesting their partner's vagina is becoming widened/loosened by the insertion of large toys, such that PIV sex is no longer pleasurable... well, I don't have a vagina but I was under the impression they don't work that way?
I can't even tell what kind of genitals each person has!
Does the OP have a penis?
Does the OP's partner have a vagina?
Is the OP's metamour putting a large phallic-shaped toy in the OP's partner's vagina?
Has this large toy done something to the OP's partner's vagina? What, exactly?
A large toy or penis does NOT make a vagina "loose," unlike Kevin assumes. Vaginas are very elastic. Frequent contact with a large penis or toy can actually make a vagina more flexible, as it is kind of like a "work out" for the vaginal muscles.
If there is a problem with the muscle definition of the OP's partner's vagina, the partner can do Kegels to increase the strength and elasticity of the vaginal and pelvic floor muscles. Sizes of toys and penises should not matter.
Does the OP have a penis?
Does the OP's partner have a vagina?
Is the OP's metamour putting a large phallic-shaped toy in the OP's partner's vagina?
Has this large toy done something to the OP's partner's vagina? What, exactly?
A large toy or penis does NOT make a vagina "loose," unlike Kevin assumes. Vaginas are very elastic. Frequent contact with a large penis or toy can actually make a vagina more flexible, as it is kind of like a "work out" for the vaginal muscles.
If there is a problem with the muscle definition of the OP's partner's vagina, the partner can do Kegels to increase the strength and elasticity of the vaginal and pelvic floor muscles. Sizes of toys and penises should not matter.