So I've fallen for this girl. Hard. She was in a semi monogamous realtionship when I met her, but since her partner was transitioning from male to female the hormones screwed up the partner's libido, she was allowed to sleep around when it was getting too hard. So I had a threesome with her and my husband once :3 I realized my feelings for her after this, but I felt it before too.
She always had and overbooked schedule (mostly work and pathfinder/DnD games with very little free time), so I don't see her very often, but I'd say that we're friends. She is also my husband's friend (and he also has a crush on her, but for longer than me and had time to learn how to deal with it).
She had been in a triad before with that trans partner and another girl, but it didn't work out. She and the partner are still friend with her though. I've read in one of her comments (I'm not stalking her, I just came across it randomly) that she believes that polyamory can work, but that it's not working for her, but it's possible that she meant that it wouldn't work with her current partner (who isn't very mature emotionally and has narcissistic traits). Or maybe I'm just grasping at straws...
My husband saw her yesterday, and she's no longer with the trans partner. Even though I tried to stay rational my hopes of being with her went through the roof... until I learned that she has already gotten into a new relationship. Talk about a big crash.
So now I'm feeling salty about it. I'm handling it maturely though, didn't lash out at her (never even told her how I feel), not holding a grudge and I'm trying to divert myself from it. My husband is very supportive too. But I'm in a rough place right now
I already have an idea of what I want to do (try to get a closer friendship with her, in part because it might make it more likely that it will develop into something else, but also because she is awesome so I would like to be friends with her, even if it doesn't go anywhere else. Her schedule seems to be losening up a little so that might be possible), so I'm not really looking for advice, but if you have any, go ahead. I think I just needed to vent and maybe get some support. If you had similar experiences, feel free to talk about it, too.
She always had and overbooked schedule (mostly work and pathfinder/DnD games with very little free time), so I don't see her very often, but I'd say that we're friends. She is also my husband's friend (and he also has a crush on her, but for longer than me and had time to learn how to deal with it).
She had been in a triad before with that trans partner and another girl, but it didn't work out. She and the partner are still friend with her though. I've read in one of her comments (I'm not stalking her, I just came across it randomly) that she believes that polyamory can work, but that it's not working for her, but it's possible that she meant that it wouldn't work with her current partner (who isn't very mature emotionally and has narcissistic traits). Or maybe I'm just grasping at straws...
My husband saw her yesterday, and she's no longer with the trans partner. Even though I tried to stay rational my hopes of being with her went through the roof... until I learned that she has already gotten into a new relationship. Talk about a big crash.
So now I'm feeling salty about it. I'm handling it maturely though, didn't lash out at her (never even told her how I feel), not holding a grudge and I'm trying to divert myself from it. My husband is very supportive too. But I'm in a rough place right now
I already have an idea of what I want to do (try to get a closer friendship with her, in part because it might make it more likely that it will develop into something else, but also because she is awesome so I would like to be friends with her, even if it doesn't go anywhere else. Her schedule seems to be losening up a little so that might be possible), so I'm not really looking for advice, but if you have any, go ahead. I think I just needed to vent and maybe get some support. If you had similar experiences, feel free to talk about it, too.
