Well, SirGawain called me yesterday evening after work to tell me he was ghosted by his date and they never ended up firming up an actual place or time; they didn’t meet. At that revelation, I decided to tell him all of my concerns. He was extremely quick to respond to my number 3 issue, saying that now that he knew it was a boundary for me, he completely understood how it would be an issue. He said he has zero desire to pursue a mono partner for himself if it meant that I would have such anxiety.
I was actually on the way to the rope skill share event with MisterMoonbeam when I got the call, so I told him I wanted to talk more about everything when we had our overnight, which is this evening. So I guess we will be doing that, which is a good thing. Honestly, I never really thought this boundary through at all - it’s just not something I thought I’d need to vocalize because I thought it was pretty clear to anyone in a relationship with me that I would have issues with a monogamous metamour. Definitely at this time, and well into the foreseeable future, I don’t see this as a configuration I want to be a part of with anyone. I am looking forward to discussing it more so we can hash it out.
All of that said, I had an amazing evening out with MisterMoonbeam. I had my hair up in buns!
The rope group didn’t end up being much of a skill share though, as MisterMoonbeam put me up on a paddling bench, tied my legs together, and proceeded to spend the evening experimenting with different chest harness configurations. He was feeling like he didn’t want to approach anyone, and I try to let him take the lead in all things at this sort of event - I’m just his bunny. I’m also not apt to complain when he’s completely focused on me and making me feel blissed out of my mind with the restraints on my skin.
It was hot as hell, and he definitely had more than a chub at certain points. He removed my bra after a bit, and I felt amazing to have his attention and the rope touching my bare skin. I was wearing a wrap dress, so it was easy to just pull the top part down so he had access to everything he wanted to see and do.
We left an hour early because he has a lot of anxiety at these sort of events. This is something he’s addressing in therapy. He said he definitely wants to practice more at home this month, so that’s exciting! It’s a performance anxiety - he feels like he’s not doing a good job and others might be judging him. Which is not exactly true as it’s a skill share, and everyone there is trying to learn new things! (I think he’s wonderful.) I’ve seen him stress out like this in other environments, and it’s definitely an issue he has.
He told me he wants to watch more videos and attend the group’s monthly play party, which is very different from the skill share. I am totally fine with this as we went to one earlier this year. My bestie and her current partner have expressed an interest in going to one as well, so we may or may not invite them along. I’m going to ask MisterMoonbeam more about this. Honestly, we will have to check the dates because the upcoming couple of months are going to be FULL.
Which includes tomorrow, as we have an 8 am appointment to see another building we might purchase. DarkKnight is going into work late so he can look at it too. I haven’t been this excited about a location since the one we had to cancel our contract on; this seems like it will be perfect for us!
I do have some questions though, as the slate roof is literally sliding off of the building, and I have no idea how much that will cost. Also, the entire area will be under construction soon. That will really impact any commercial ventures there! It’s diagonal from where our city is demoing several buildings and constructing a multi-use stadium. This will definitely increase the property value in the long term, but it could impede our ability to make money in the short term! Also, if multiple offers come in, there is zero chance we can compete financially. We really can’t afford to spend more than half a million - purchase price and fixes - even with the angel investors assisting us. I think previously this was an obtainable goal, but right now everything available is becoming inflated and we can’t succeed with the prices climbing now. I hope this one works out. We are prepared to make our best offer tomorrow if the place seems workable for us!