I’m a member of a local Facebook group, and on Friday morning they had a poll about dating sites, and which ones people in the area like to use. I forget if I ever gave him a name or not, but the muscle-y dude that wants me as a FWB when he’s single is the one who started the question. A mutual friend responded that he’d recently given up on love because his life is shit right now. (Break up in June, he moved out of their shared home only to have his deposit taken in a rental scam, he’s now living in a camper on his dad’s yard while he looks for a rental, he had to rehome his dogs, only to have one die suddenly, he’s having visitation issues with his kids - whew!) This mutual friend has been connected to me for at least 5 years on Facebook but we never met in person, or even really interacted.
Well, I posted that he shouldn’t give up and that things would get better. My not-FWB responded by posting a spraying water bottle meme with the word “No!” Lol I’m like, dude, I’m not trying to date the guy! Then there was some back and forth between the 3 of us, resulting in both guys ending up in my DMs.
My not-FWB asked me if the other guy was in my DMs. I’m like, not at all, and I’m not looking to date. (This was when I was taking my cat Albus to the vet.) Then I checked, and he was in my messages. 😂 We spent the entire day chatting, culminating in us setting up a potential date for Saturday morning at the Freedom Festival downtown. (The white party was a fundraiser for this event.)
I was excited, but also kind of like, what the fuck just happened? This guy and I seemed to be connecting on SO many levels. I spoke to both MisterMoonbeam and DarkKnight about it and they were both kinda like, hey, have fun, but be careful.
Saturday morning rolled around, and I called SirGawain and let him know what was going on too. He and I had plans to meet up at 3 pm, since I haven’t seen him since Pride because of Covid. I promised I wouldn’t be late and he was also like, okay. Not enthusiastic, but not negative.
Well, the guy ended up messaging me and wanting to go play mini golf in the mall instead, so we did that. I had offered to buy us lunch at Red Robin, but he said he would feel obligated to sleep with me then and he didn’t want that mucking up our relationship from the start. 😂😂😂 (Oh he was hilarious!)
We ended up eating in the open food court, each buying our own meal. I had Subway, he had pizza. We talked for like an hour, and then did mini golf for an hour, followed by a brief shopping trip in FYE, though none of us bought anything. I did get a strawberry Julius after the putt-putt. Lol
The date went REALLY well. He’s an amazing kisser. So yeah. He’s a big bearded dude and it’s kinda crazy because for a random online encounter to turn into an unexpected date, AND to have the dude be exactly my type - like what??? Oh, and doesn’t normally identify as poly, but he’s been in a polycule before and it didn’t end well.
At one point I asked him if my not-FWB had encouraged him to message me off of Facebook, and he then whipped out his phone and let me SEE the back and forth between them! OMG I was like, are you kidding me?! My not-FWB was so positive and nice - saying that this dude needed to message me because I’m intelligent, funny, into the same nerd stuff. That I would be a perfect match. Lol It was seriously heartwarming to read the things he had said. He was building me up so well. I didn’t know I had such a wingman! Lol I ended up seeing him later in the day downtown and I was like DUDE and he said he meant every word.
So, I made it back home before 3 pm to meet up with SirGawain. Of course he was late - he’s always late and we’ve had fights about that fact - and he showed up closer to 4 pm. It was really great to see him! We ended up going to the Freedom Festival, and then walking over to the local game store where I purchased Chronicles of Avel.
Here’s what I was wearing yesterday. I think it was the perfect dress for two back to back dates!