Bluebird
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Um, ok?
Have you actually read my journal? I am NOT in a triad. I live with both of my partners, so they definitely both get nagged and see me on my WORST behavior.
We aren't a triad. We don't have sex all together, and no one watches. My sex life with my husband is private from my sex life with my boyfriend. We don't plan on having any more children at all. I am not sure how this applies to my situation?
Lucky you, I guess?
I am sure this is true - it would be difficult to adjust. I am not sure, however, how this applies to anything written in my journal. Thanks for sharing your experience, but it is far removed from how I am practicing poly.
The more I read, the more I am made aware of how difficult this is for many people. I have always lived my life avoiding drama. I never let someone else control my emotions, except my wife and girlfriend and even then, only to a certain point right before it became manipulation. I have only had bisexual girlfriends and was engaged to two of the three, marrying the third. My sex drive is much higher than my wife's plus I am into BDSM and she is not. We saw how open relationships destroyed our friend's marriage. Lets face it, we form emotional bonds with our sex partners and we tend to only share the fun times with them. They never nag us to do things and we usually see them on their best behavior. It is easy to fall in love with someone else. Just look at the divorce rate of those who try to be monogamous so imagine how much more dangerous it is in a poly relationship where both partners are not equally in love with the third person.
Have you actually read my journal? I am NOT in a triad. I live with both of my partners, so they definitely both get nagged and see me on my WORST behavior.
My wife recognized my need for more and different sex, so she set me up with her dominant best friend and then joined in. We were together for 38 years. We never had sex or dated anyone alone. It was always my wife and I together. We wife swapped in the same room but we mostly just put on a show for each other and could not wait to get home to have sex. Funny how neither of us can remember if we even had orgasms. I know we were bad at it as we hated it and were never invited back for a repeat. No matter, all the couples in our local wife swapping group got involved in all sorts of drama and eventually ran off with one of their lovers so we lost touch with them. It was kind of messed up when your friend marries another friend's wife whose husband married our friends wife and then they all have kids from each marriage.
We aren't a triad. We don't have sex all together, and no one watches. My sex life with my husband is private from my sex life with my boyfriend. We don't plan on having any more children at all. I am not sure how this applies to my situation?
We never had the internet or cable TV in our day so we had no idea of what others were doing outside of the couples we knew. We blissfully lived in the dark making our monogamous triad work for us without a single problem, insecurity or jealously. I could do anything with either my wife or girlfriend without either getting jealous.
Lucky you, I guess?
However, when we were not able to be together anymore, I fell into a depression and am just coming off of treatment. When you live 38 years of a 45 year married with a third, living as a couple again was a hard thing to adjust too for both me and my wife.
I am sure this is true - it would be difficult to adjust. I am not sure, however, how this applies to anything written in my journal. Thanks for sharing your experience, but it is far removed from how I am practicing poly.