Fun and Frolic With Long-Term Love
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SNeacail
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Ha! I don't have an X-wing or a tie fighter!
Oh well, must have been one of the feather things and lights. My tree is usually covered in spaceships of some kind, so I just imagined it.
Bluebird
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Happy Thanksgiving everyone! We're having our "official" turkey day on Tuesday, as my oldest daughter will be down from New York at the beginning of next week. Today though, PunkRockAwesomesauce and I are going to attend a dinner at his Aunt Carmen's, at 1:30. We had been concerned about the snow, but we just got a light dusting yesterday - rather, nothing that stuck to the roads. We've got about an hour and a half drive to Baltimore!
I am a bit sad about my parents being alone on Thanksgiving this year. I know my sister is going to her in-laws' house. The years I was elsewhere, they ate alone and with like, frozen boxed turkey and canned gravy, if that. I am trying not to dwell on it. I will call my mom shortly though, to talk about our upcoming Christmas visit, mid-December.
Honestly, I have no idea what DarkKnight's mom is doing either, which is especially worrisome for me because this is the first holiday where her husband has not been alive. I wish she would overcome her stubbornness and condemnation of us being poly and come to dinner here. We all love her. I am not sure what the extended family plans are.
It's really strange to think I'll only be hosting 7-8 people next Tuesday. That's half what I usually cover on Thanksgiving! I suppose this is my life - changing with the seasons!
I am a bit sad about my parents being alone on Thanksgiving this year. I know my sister is going to her in-laws' house. The years I was elsewhere, they ate alone and with like, frozen boxed turkey and canned gravy, if that. I am trying not to dwell on it. I will call my mom shortly though, to talk about our upcoming Christmas visit, mid-December.
Honestly, I have no idea what DarkKnight's mom is doing either, which is especially worrisome for me because this is the first holiday where her husband has not been alive. I wish she would overcome her stubbornness and condemnation of us being poly and come to dinner here. We all love her. I am not sure what the extended family plans are.
It's really strange to think I'll only be hosting 7-8 people next Tuesday. That's half what I usually cover on Thanksgiving! I suppose this is my life - changing with the seasons!
Bluebird
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Decided to start another entry, since it's a completely different topic.
Commitment ceremony! Here's some wedding porn that has me all aflutter!
I am not sure if I want a white dress - the idea of green or blue has me happy.
PunkRockAwesomesauce and I looked at possible cabins/locations last night and he had some insight on what he wanted. He told me that he was going to have to start working on writing his vows! I read him what I had cobbed together so far, and I think he liked it ok. But those are my vows, not his.
I think we really are going to shoot for this May, but that means I need to get serious about losing weight, as soon as Thanksgiving is over. I wanna look super hot, and that means losing at least 15 pounds. I wanna be curvy as fuck. Right now I just feel blah.
Commitment ceremony! Here's some wedding porn that has me all aflutter!
I am not sure if I want a white dress - the idea of green or blue has me happy.
PunkRockAwesomesauce and I looked at possible cabins/locations last night and he had some insight on what he wanted. He told me that he was going to have to start working on writing his vows! I read him what I had cobbed together so far, and I think he liked it ok. But those are my vows, not his.
I think we really are going to shoot for this May, but that means I need to get serious about losing weight, as soon as Thanksgiving is over. I wanna look super hot, and that means losing at least 15 pounds. I wanna be curvy as fuck. Right now I just feel blah.
Bluebird
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Thanksgiving was an up and down day for me. I posted "Happy Thanksgiving" on my facebook, and a friend asked about my plans. I explained how my daughter was coming and we were celebrating as a family on this coming Tuesday, and how PunkRock and I were going to go to his aunt's house. I hadn't blocked my sister from my initial post of "Happy Thanksgiving" so she was able to read this, and so she then started flipping out within the post. Her first question was "what about DarkKnight?"
I again explained how my daughter was working and couldn't travel down for our turkey day until Tuesday, so that we'd be celebrating then. She posted that was fucked up and that I was basically a terrible person for waiting, and for going out with PunkRock on Thanksgiving. DarkKnight posted and told her that he was absolutely fine with our plans, and in fact was happy to have a whole day to sit around in his pajamas and play Lego Batman.
I decided that there was nothing I could say to stop her from creating more drama, where there was decidedly none to be had, at least here in our house, so I stopped posting at that point. Later, I called my parents to say happy thanksgiving over the phone. My mom told me something that made me majorly upset.
I guess until Monday, the plan was that my mom and dad were going to have Thanksgiving with my sister, at her house. My parents had been planning on this for about a month. After not hearing from my sister, my mom called her to ask what dish she could bring. My sister then told her that she had decided to not host Thanksgiving, and that she was going to her in-laws. This was on MONDAY. So my parents had no where to go last minute like that, and ended up having the Salvation Army bring them boxed dinners for Thanksgiving.
Number one, if I lived in NY, never would I let my parents eat SA meals on a holiday. There is zero excuse for this, if there is family in the area. Number two, the hypocrisy of my sister chiding me publicly on Facebook for making my husband wait until Tuesday to eat turkey, when she has effectively ditched my parents in unbelievable.
I didn't want that to blow up on Facebook, so I didn't say anything at all. I don't see any benefit from flipping out on my sister at this point. It wouldn't change anything at all. She won't suddenly see that she's a hypocrite. All it would do is make her angry and cancel me seeing my niece and nephews when I go up there for Christmas in a couple of weeks. She has done that before, and as much as I don't like being in a hostage situation, that's basically what it is.
So, I just flipped out about it all to DarkKnight and PunkRock, and then messaged my friend who I usually vent to about my crazy extended family. She was outraged, and went and posted on the Thanksgiving thread, saying to DarkKnight that she had heard that the Salvation Army had great turkey, and maybe he should go there.
Though I found that super hilarious, I decided to delete the entire thing. I didn't need my sister reading that and reacting.
So yeah, lots of drama caused and it started my day off with a super sour note. More than anything, I am upset about my parents having no other option than to eat SA meals for the holiday. However, I am happy to think I will be up there to at least celebrate Christmas in a couple of weeks.
The rest of Thanksgiving went very well - it was nice to meet PunkRock's aunt and to see his dad and stepmom again. Now I am counting down the days til my daughter gets home! Tuesday will be here soon, and I'll be cooking lots and lots.
I had decided not to go out at all on Black Friday, but it ended up being a date night for DarkKnight and I, so we decided to go out for dinner. After eating, we were close to a shopping center, so I decided to go to a clothing store to buy myself a pair of gray dress pants. Well, we passed Payless Shoe Store, and they had a big sign about $16.99 doorbuster boots for sale. Saying fuck it, I went in to check. I spent ALL winter last year looking for boots that would fit my calf - I may be fat, but my ankles are super skinny and boots that I try on just flop around on my leg and look ridiculous.
Now, I see plenty of women walking around with ill-fitting boots, but I resolved not to be one of them. It's ridiculous to see all this space in between the boot and the calf. At most it should be two fingers' width. Anyway, I could never find ones that fit correctly, even with adjustable buckles and such. Well, I found two different pairs at Payless - a gray pair and a black pair! And for $16.99! These are like $70 boots. I was so excited and happy and just over the moon.
Then I went to Dress Barn and found not only the gray pants I had wanted, but also a long gray skirt, a striped skirt and a new pair of jeans that made my ass look curvy and fabulous.
Lately I've been so down on my body and my weight, that this shopping trip really boosted my mood. I am a firm believer in fitting clothes to the body you have, not to the body you had, or want to have. If something is too long, or too big - pay the $6 to have it adjusted at the tailor. If it is too tight, buy things that aren't. As depressing as it is to go up a size, it's more depressing to feel fat every time you look in your closet and you've got nothing to wear.
So, having the new items gave me a boost, because I have options again now. And I felt incredibly sexy! Especially after I came home and put on a nice top and skirt over leggings and wore my boots to show them off. My legs looked incredible! Both DarkKnight and PunkRock were like, WOW.
I again explained how my daughter was working and couldn't travel down for our turkey day until Tuesday, so that we'd be celebrating then. She posted that was fucked up and that I was basically a terrible person for waiting, and for going out with PunkRock on Thanksgiving. DarkKnight posted and told her that he was absolutely fine with our plans, and in fact was happy to have a whole day to sit around in his pajamas and play Lego Batman.
I decided that there was nothing I could say to stop her from creating more drama, where there was decidedly none to be had, at least here in our house, so I stopped posting at that point. Later, I called my parents to say happy thanksgiving over the phone. My mom told me something that made me majorly upset.
I guess until Monday, the plan was that my mom and dad were going to have Thanksgiving with my sister, at her house. My parents had been planning on this for about a month. After not hearing from my sister, my mom called her to ask what dish she could bring. My sister then told her that she had decided to not host Thanksgiving, and that she was going to her in-laws. This was on MONDAY. So my parents had no where to go last minute like that, and ended up having the Salvation Army bring them boxed dinners for Thanksgiving.
Number one, if I lived in NY, never would I let my parents eat SA meals on a holiday. There is zero excuse for this, if there is family in the area. Number two, the hypocrisy of my sister chiding me publicly on Facebook for making my husband wait until Tuesday to eat turkey, when she has effectively ditched my parents in unbelievable.
I didn't want that to blow up on Facebook, so I didn't say anything at all. I don't see any benefit from flipping out on my sister at this point. It wouldn't change anything at all. She won't suddenly see that she's a hypocrite. All it would do is make her angry and cancel me seeing my niece and nephews when I go up there for Christmas in a couple of weeks. She has done that before, and as much as I don't like being in a hostage situation, that's basically what it is.
So, I just flipped out about it all to DarkKnight and PunkRock, and then messaged my friend who I usually vent to about my crazy extended family. She was outraged, and went and posted on the Thanksgiving thread, saying to DarkKnight that she had heard that the Salvation Army had great turkey, and maybe he should go there.
Though I found that super hilarious, I decided to delete the entire thing. I didn't need my sister reading that and reacting.
So yeah, lots of drama caused and it started my day off with a super sour note. More than anything, I am upset about my parents having no other option than to eat SA meals for the holiday. However, I am happy to think I will be up there to at least celebrate Christmas in a couple of weeks.
The rest of Thanksgiving went very well - it was nice to meet PunkRock's aunt and to see his dad and stepmom again. Now I am counting down the days til my daughter gets home! Tuesday will be here soon, and I'll be cooking lots and lots.
I had decided not to go out at all on Black Friday, but it ended up being a date night for DarkKnight and I, so we decided to go out for dinner. After eating, we were close to a shopping center, so I decided to go to a clothing store to buy myself a pair of gray dress pants. Well, we passed Payless Shoe Store, and they had a big sign about $16.99 doorbuster boots for sale. Saying fuck it, I went in to check. I spent ALL winter last year looking for boots that would fit my calf - I may be fat, but my ankles are super skinny and boots that I try on just flop around on my leg and look ridiculous.
Now, I see plenty of women walking around with ill-fitting boots, but I resolved not to be one of them. It's ridiculous to see all this space in between the boot and the calf. At most it should be two fingers' width. Anyway, I could never find ones that fit correctly, even with adjustable buckles and such. Well, I found two different pairs at Payless - a gray pair and a black pair! And for $16.99! These are like $70 boots. I was so excited and happy and just over the moon.
Then I went to Dress Barn and found not only the gray pants I had wanted, but also a long gray skirt, a striped skirt and a new pair of jeans that made my ass look curvy and fabulous.
Lately I've been so down on my body and my weight, that this shopping trip really boosted my mood. I am a firm believer in fitting clothes to the body you have, not to the body you had, or want to have. If something is too long, or too big - pay the $6 to have it adjusted at the tailor. If it is too tight, buy things that aren't. As depressing as it is to go up a size, it's more depressing to feel fat every time you look in your closet and you've got nothing to wear.
So, having the new items gave me a boost, because I have options again now.
And I felt incredibly sexy! Especially after I came home and put on a nice top and skirt over leggings and wore my boots to show them off. My legs looked incredible! Both DarkKnight and PunkRock were like, WOW.
Bluebird
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I spent most of the day today with DarkKnight. Both he and PunkRock had the day off, but DarkKnight wanted to go have lunch with his mom, so I went along to Chambersburg to do that. What's amazing to me is how nice and cool she is with me in public, when I know she talks trash about me when I am not there. Anyway, we had a nice lunch with her and her new boyfriend. Then, DarkKnight and I went to the cemetery. We had bought 3 poinsettias - one for his dad's grave, one for his birthmother's plot and the other to sit in front of his one set of grandparents' shared stone.
After that, DarkKnight and I spent about an hour watching our newest TV show find - Glee. Oh, I know it's ridiculous, but we started with season 1 yesterday and I think we are up to episode 8 now. Lol
PunkRock and I took a nap this afternoon and had some fun sexy times before dinner. Since my oldest daughter is coming down tomorrow and DarkKnight will be on a night shift all week, we are going to be spending every evening together beginning tomorrow. So, DarkKnight is taking the opportunity to be with me again for a sleepover tonight and the afternoon snuggle time with PunkRock was really needed by me.
What else can I write about? PunkRock waterproofed my new boots today. Hmmm I guess my life is hella boring. I'll take that!
After that, DarkKnight and I spent about an hour watching our newest TV show find - Glee. Oh, I know it's ridiculous, but we started with season 1 yesterday and I think we are up to episode 8 now. Lol
PunkRock and I took a nap this afternoon and had some fun sexy times before dinner. Since my oldest daughter is coming down tomorrow and DarkKnight will be on a night shift all week, we are going to be spending every evening together beginning tomorrow. So, DarkKnight is taking the opportunity to be with me again for a sleepover tonight and the afternoon snuggle time with PunkRock was really needed by me.
What else can I write about? PunkRock waterproofed my new boots today. Hmmm I guess my life is hella boring. I'll take that!
SNeacail
New member
What boots don't come waterproofed - Well, that explains a few things.
Yes, I live in Southern CA and we don't need to worry about such things most of the time.
IndieSolo
Active member
Gorgeous throuple! I love how your signature line showed up right under the picture - "Unapologetically Poly." Perfect caption for the image!
One pair was sort of a shade and the other was a leather-look.
I will write later about our Thanksgiving, but here's a pic of my V. There are more in my photo albums that I added as well.
Bluebird
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Ha! I guess it did.
Well, my oldest daughter just left and I miss her already. She brought, it seemed, every single piece of fabric in her home down here with her. She doesn't own a washer and dryer, so she saved up all of her laundry for me! She did it all herself, but damn! I don't mid though, she's my girl and love her lots.
Thanksgiving was crazy delicious. We had - let's see - turkey & gravy, ham, sweet potatoes, garlic mashed potatoes, filling, rolls, corn pudding, candied onions, mixed veggies and cranberry sauce. There might have been more, but I can't remember at this point. I cooked so much!
I am excited about going to NY next Friday - not this Friday - to see my daughter again. I will also see my brother and sister and my parents. Both my younger daughter and my son will be traveling with me. I am missing DarkKnight and PunkRock already! There will be one night in a hotel with my kiddos and a night with my youngest at a friend's house, and those shouldn't be too terrible. I will, however, have one night all alone in a hotel room and that is making me slightly anxious. I hate being alone at night.
Back to my happy though - I am so in love, my family is great and I wouldn't change anything about my poly self.
Well, my oldest daughter just left and I miss her already. She brought, it seemed, every single piece of fabric in her home down here with her. She doesn't own a washer and dryer, so she saved up all of her laundry for me! She did it all herself, but damn! I don't mid though, she's my girl and love her lots.
Thanksgiving was crazy delicious. We had - let's see - turkey & gravy, ham, sweet potatoes, garlic mashed potatoes, filling, rolls, corn pudding, candied onions, mixed veggies and cranberry sauce. There might have been more, but I can't remember at this point. I cooked so much!
I am excited about going to NY next Friday - not this Friday - to see my daughter again. I will also see my brother and sister and my parents. Both my younger daughter and my son will be traveling with me. I am missing DarkKnight and PunkRock already! There will be one night in a hotel with my kiddos and a night with my youngest at a friend's house, and those shouldn't be too terrible. I will, however, have one night all alone in a hotel room and that is making me slightly anxious.
I hate being alone at night.Back to my happy though - I am so in love, my family is great and I wouldn't change anything about my poly self.
FullofLove1052
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What a lovely looking trio. You are beaming, BlueBird.
P.S.
The tiara is awesome. (Seriously just started humming "Royals" by Lorde.)
P.S.
The tiara is awesome. (Seriously just started humming "Royals" by Lorde.)
Bluebird
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Ha! Yes NY state. My extended family lives in the Finger Lakes area. I love it - I will definitely let you know if I head over to NYC.
Thanks for the compliment on the tiara - PunkRock bought it for me as a surprise gift. My ex, M, used to say I was a pretty, pretty princess in a negative way. PunkRock said it was one of the qualities he loves about me - yes, I am a pretty, pretty princess but I also kick ass. He said I need to embrace all of me.
I got my period tonight while out at trivia with my lady friends. Also, I was wearing an uncomfortable bra and those two things combined have me feeling crabby. I always say that life is too short to wear ill-fitting underwear! I am too broke right now to get any more new bras though - I just bought 2 new ones and I have to wait until January prolly to get more. My boobs are such that I really do need to retire them after 6 months!
I love it - I will definitely let you know if I head over to NYC. Thanks for the compliment on the tiara - PunkRock bought it for me as a surprise gift. My ex, M, used to say I was a pretty, pretty princess in a negative way. PunkRock said it was one of the qualities he loves about me - yes, I am a pretty, pretty princess but I also kick ass. He said I need to embrace all of me.
I got my period tonight while out at trivia with my lady friends. Also, I was wearing an uncomfortable bra and those two things combined have me feeling crabby. I always say that life is too short to wear ill-fitting underwear! I am too broke right now to get any more new bras though - I just bought 2 new ones and I have to wait until January prolly to get more. My boobs are such that I really do need to retire them after 6 months!
Bluebird
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So very squeeeeee today! It's PunkRock's birthday and we had a lovely morning of cuddles and snuggles. I don't think we could be more in love! While he was dressing for work, he caught me looking at wedding porn and got excited about this tie:
I don't think there's a more appropriate one for him, and at $30, it's even more awesomesauce.
I currently have 3 possibilities I am contemplating - I've a wedding officiant in Richmond, VA who has messaged me back and said she is on-board with hosting an elopement in her backyard garden for around $300, and I have a pagan friend who lives in southern PA who is willing to officiate a hand-fasting - he's supposed to message me wedding ceremony words today - and I just sent an email to a pop-up wedding company in Washington DC that does it all, as in the ceremony, the location and all the photos as a package. The first two are perfectly fine with me being married already, but I dunno about the company. I am optimistic though, as it's run by three young humanists who bill themselves as open minded and quirky. So we'll see.
What I am really enjoying is the positive energy flowing between PunkRock and I - it's so freaking rad! Just love, love, LOVE! The other day, when we were prepping for Thanksgiving, my oldest daughter and I were alternating different songs on the iPad, terrible stuff. I played Bust A Move and was dancing around like a freak. PunkRock was laughing at me, and I grabbed him and we danced together. He's not sure if there is dancing at his company Christmas party, but he promises he'll jump around like a fool if I want him to try. Lol I love how happy he is lately; we just shine on each other.
Last night, I was asking him about his previous two engagements - they didn't work out. (One chick cheated on him, the other was more of a last-ditch save-the-relationship thing.) He said his main concern with our marriage is getting me to stick around during the time between the engagement and the wedding date. That had me in stitches! Poor guy. Mwah! I'm definitely not going anywhere. He's awesomesauce.
I don't think there's a more appropriate one for him, and at $30, it's even more awesomesauce.
I currently have 3 possibilities I am contemplating - I've a wedding officiant in Richmond, VA who has messaged me back and said she is on-board with hosting an elopement in her backyard garden for around $300, and I have a pagan friend who lives in southern PA who is willing to officiate a hand-fasting - he's supposed to message me wedding ceremony words today - and I just sent an email to a pop-up wedding company in Washington DC that does it all, as in the ceremony, the location and all the photos as a package. The first two are perfectly fine with me being married already, but I dunno about the company. I am optimistic though, as it's run by three young humanists who bill themselves as open minded and quirky. So we'll see.
What I am really enjoying is the positive energy flowing between PunkRock and I - it's so freaking rad! Just love, love, LOVE! The other day, when we were prepping for Thanksgiving, my oldest daughter and I were alternating different songs on the iPad, terrible stuff. I played Bust A Move and was dancing around like a freak. PunkRock was laughing at me, and I grabbed him and we danced together. He's not sure if there is dancing at his company Christmas party, but he promises he'll jump around like a fool if I want him to try. Lol I love how happy he is lately; we just shine on each other.
Last night, I was asking him about his previous two engagements - they didn't work out. (One chick cheated on him, the other was more of a last-ditch save-the-relationship thing.) He said his main concern with our marriage is getting me to stick around during the time between the engagement and the wedding date. That had me in stitches! Poor guy. Mwah! I'm definitely not going anywhere. He's awesomesauce.
Bluebird
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Oh I am so sick right now! I caught a cold and it's made me miserable. The runny nose just will not shut off. Blech.
DarkKnight has been working overnights for the last 4 days, but starting now he's off until Wednesday. PunkRock has been so very nurturing during this time, and has given me so much attention and care. He traded off this morning when DarkKnight was done with his shift, so I'm all snuggly under the covers at the moment with DarkKnight. He's sleeping but I am laying here all sick. Anyway, DarkKnight will now have sleepovers for the next few nights, and then I will have Wednesday night with PunkRock. Thursday, I will be in New York.
I hope I am over this cold by then!
The plan is to tell my extended family in person, that PunkRock and I are going to have a commitment ceremony. So that will happen Friday night. Wish me luck. I think best case scenario is that I will get head shakes and a big "whatever." Hopefully there is minimal drama. PunkRock told me yesterday he wants to tell his family on Christmas as well.
Actually, two nights ago AND yesterday morning PunkRock spent a large swath of time looking at wedding bands online. He is fixated at this point on a titanium carbide ring that has an abalone insert around the center. It's really pretty! He is also looking at plugs that match. I gently teased him about the time he put in researching, but it pleased me to see him so involved in the wedding planning. He wanted to see what dresses I was considering, but I am all over the place with that. I found one online at David's Bridal, but it is $600 and I refuse to pay more than $200 on my dress. I spent LOTS on my dress when I married my ex husband and I will never do that again.
Anyway, my ring will just be a 2mm white gold band so it will fit the top of my current wedding band and engagement ring with DarkKnight. It's $89. I hope to get both the rings for me and PunkRock purchased by the beginning of the year. PunkRock actually began wearing a ring yesterday that he already owned. I was like, what are you doing?! He told me he wants to get used to it, get me used to it, and that doesn't it make him more attractive to other women now? Pfffft. He is a goofball sometimes, I swear.
He told me this morning that our upcoming Union might not be legal, but it will be real to him in every way.
I want to change my name after, but I am concerned because in Maryland, it's required to go before a judge and state a reason for the change. I am sure they don't want to hear about polyamory. Any suggestions? I will be dropping my current middle name and putting PunkRock's last name in that space.
DarkKnight has been working overnights for the last 4 days, but starting now he's off until Wednesday. PunkRock has been so very nurturing during this time, and has given me so much attention and care. He traded off this morning when DarkKnight was done with his shift, so I'm all snuggly under the covers at the moment with DarkKnight. He's sleeping but I am laying here all sick.
Anyway, DarkKnight will now have sleepovers for the next few nights, and then I will have Wednesday night with PunkRock. Thursday, I will be in New York.I hope I am over this cold by then!
The plan is to tell my extended family in person, that PunkRock and I are going to have a commitment ceremony. So that will happen Friday night. Wish me luck. I think best case scenario is that I will get head shakes and a big "whatever." Hopefully there is minimal drama. PunkRock told me yesterday he wants to tell his family on Christmas as well.
Actually, two nights ago AND yesterday morning PunkRock spent a large swath of time looking at wedding bands online. He is fixated at this point on a titanium carbide ring that has an abalone insert around the center. It's really pretty! He is also looking at plugs that match. I gently teased him about the time he put in researching, but it pleased me to see him so involved in the wedding planning. He wanted to see what dresses I was considering, but I am all over the place with that. I found one online at David's Bridal, but it is $600 and I refuse to pay more than $200 on my dress. I spent LOTS on my dress when I married my ex husband and I will never do that again.
Anyway, my ring will just be a 2mm white gold band so it will fit the top of my current wedding band and engagement ring with DarkKnight. It's $89. I hope to get both the rings for me and PunkRock purchased by the beginning of the year. PunkRock actually began wearing a ring yesterday that he already owned. I was like, what are you doing?! He told me he wants to get used to it, get me used to it, and that doesn't it make him more attractive to other women now? Pfffft. He is a goofball sometimes, I swear.
He told me this morning that our upcoming Union might not be legal, but it will be real to him in every way.
I want to change my name after, but I am concerned because in Maryland, it's required to go before a judge and state a reason for the change. I am sure they don't want to hear about polyamory. Any suggestions? I will be dropping my current middle name and putting PunkRock's last name in that space.
Bluebird
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Sorry about being so short yesterday - I am feeling a little bit better now.
Let's see - I heard back from PopWed in DC and they charge $2500. We are going to pass on that, as it seems very expensive for what is being offered at that price. I was actually a little bit down, because I had gotten pumped up about the idea of a ceremony there. However, I am now really excited about having our wedding in Virginia.
I've exchanged several emails with an officiant who I believed to be in Richmond, but she's actually in Winchester. Though she offers a great price and a nice location - in her backyard - PunkRock and I are now looking into the idea of having her travel to the place we want to honeymoon at after.
I found a GORGEOUS cottage on a small private lake in the Virginia mountains that is just perfect. We both fell in love with it and it seems that paying the officiant's travel costs to there would be about the same. Our next step now is to see if we can get the rental dates to mesh with her and then pay deposits on both. Then, we'll look for a photographer.
Squeeee!
My Pinterest board is ever-expanding and both my daughters have pinning rights. I am thinking I want a birdcage veil but it's all just pins for now, as I won't be purchasing a dress or any attire for myself until April. I am going to start a strict diet in January so I can look perfect for our ceremony! PunkRock is going to be outfitted WAY before me - he wanted to look at top hats last night. Lol
Poly-wise, I have been feelings lots of positives while I have been ill. Both DarkKnight and PunkRock have been pampering me with snuggles, chai, OJ and medicine, as well as doing my laundry and emptying the cat litter box. It's awesome.
Let's see - I heard back from PopWed in DC and they charge $2500. We are going to pass on that, as it seems very expensive for what is being offered at that price. I was actually a little bit down, because I had gotten pumped up about the idea of a ceremony there. However, I am now really excited about having our wedding in Virginia.
I've exchanged several emails with an officiant who I believed to be in Richmond, but she's actually in Winchester. Though she offers a great price and a nice location - in her backyard - PunkRock and I are now looking into the idea of having her travel to the place we want to honeymoon at after.
I found a GORGEOUS cottage on a small private lake in the Virginia mountains that is just perfect. We both fell in love with it and it seems that paying the officiant's travel costs to there would be about the same. Our next step now is to see if we can get the rental dates to mesh with her and then pay deposits on both. Then, we'll look for a photographer.
Squeeee!
My Pinterest board is ever-expanding and both my daughters have pinning rights.
I am thinking I want a birdcage veil but it's all just pins for now, as I won't be purchasing a dress or any attire for myself until April. I am going to start a strict diet in January so I can look perfect for our ceremony! PunkRock is going to be outfitted WAY before me - he wanted to look at top hats last night. LolPoly-wise, I have been feelings lots of positives while I have been ill. Both DarkKnight and PunkRock have been pampering me with snuggles, chai, OJ and medicine, as well as doing my laundry and emptying the cat litter box. It's awesome.