Hello I am in a poly relationship with my 2 year gf and a new girl recently it's supposed to be an equal relationship where she is kind of dating us as a couple so we can eventually all three be in love together so on and so forth. The unicorn really likes me. I like the attention a lot but I feel bad for my gf. They like each other but I don't think she likes my girlfriend that much I've seen recently on Facebook one of her female friends kind of flirted on her picture comment and she's always saying the women on TV are hot in front of my girl. My 2 year gf Leyla suspects she is only into me but is allowing the relationship to continue and has let me have sex with the unicorn Jenny while Leyla was on her period. Last night she came over no sex and we all fell asleep in the bed together but my girl was mad pushing my hand away when I tried to put it around her than she later said she was mad because she was up against the wall and the sheet had come off so she was laying on the plastic on the bed. She acted like she wasn't mad but I think she was mad because she asked why I had a bone at 3am when we kind of woke up for a second and honestly i had the bone when I woke up. She's been really irritable and teasing me being smart about everything like why don't u go do that with your girlfriend(jenny). I asked the new ggirl does she like Leyla and what's going on she says she just likes guys more but she is ready to move with us to another state already she came over the other day wearing a hoodie with our state on it lol. I just don't want to take them to my home state and have a bunch of drama to deal with I'm moving to be happy and start a career.
Girlfriend jealousy issues and unicorn likes me too much
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I am sorry you struggle.
I think it would be best if everyone laid their cards on the table.
If what this wants to be is a "V" rather than a triad.
If Leyla can deal with her jealous/envy in a more constructive way. She sounds like she's pushing you away and putting up a wall with the biting remarks. That's not healthy relating.
If cosleeping is a drag because the bed is too small -- don't try to co-sleep in that bed.
If this is a limited run relationship because when you move, you do NOT want to take them with you. Because you want to focus on your career.
One layer at a time.
But super duper honest about it all.
Galagirl
I think it would be best if everyone laid their cards on the table.
If what this wants to be is a "V" rather than a triad.
If Leyla can deal with her jealous/envy in a more constructive way. She sounds like she's pushing you away and putting up a wall with the biting remarks. That's not healthy relating.
If cosleeping is a drag because the bed is too small -- don't try to co-sleep in that bed.
If this is a limited run relationship because when you move, you do NOT want to take them with you. Because you want to focus on your career.
One layer at a time.
But super duper honest about it all.
Galagirl
IndieSolo
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You can't force a triad. Maybe you should let go of the goal to have all three of you equally involved and in love. That can't happen when it is expected of people; it really only happens if it's natural.
It sounds like you are making a big move for your career and to make a new start. Maybe you should go there first by yourself, settle in, and then figure out if you want to have your girlfriends move in with you. It's okay if you don't want the drama.
But seriously, why is there plastic still on your mattress, man? Take that shit off.
It sounds like you are making a big move for your career and to make a new start. Maybe you should go there first by yourself, settle in, and then figure out if you want to have your girlfriends move in with you. It's okay if you don't want the drama.
But seriously, why is there plastic still on your mattress, man? Take that shit off.
Maybe it's a plastic mattress protector? There are better ones you can get that aren't all plasticy.
Sounds like a bad and confusing scenario there, menage. You 3 need to sit down and talk it out. This petty sniping from Leyla is showing she is totally not OK with Leyla's involvement. It's best they clear the air and sort feelings out. I agree with NYCindie, it seems Jenny isn't "into" Leyla.
Remains to be seen whether they can go on as 2 arms of a V, rather than trying to force themselves to feel sexual towards each other. It sounds like Jenny should find herself her own gf, so that she's not resentful of you having one.
YOU CAN'T FORCE A TRIAD. It happens organically, rising from true feelings of affection and sexual desire, or not at all. It's not gonna happen just because it's your fantasy of having a menage a trois.
Move to the city alone, or with your gf of 2 years, Leyla. Jenny might just be using the both of you as a free ticket to move to the city. Not good. You'll crash and burn. As I said in your other thread, Jenny could move to the city to her own place. You could visit her, date her, see where this is going. Moving in with someone after 2 months of dating is just, excuse me, stupid.
Sounds like a bad and confusing scenario there, menage. You 3 need to sit down and talk it out. This petty sniping from Leyla is showing she is totally not OK with Leyla's involvement. It's best they clear the air and sort feelings out. I agree with NYCindie, it seems Jenny isn't "into" Leyla.
Remains to be seen whether they can go on as 2 arms of a V, rather than trying to force themselves to feel sexual towards each other. It sounds like Jenny should find herself her own gf, so that she's not resentful of you having one.
YOU CAN'T FORCE A TRIAD. It happens organically, rising from true feelings of affection and sexual desire, or not at all. It's not gonna happen just because it's your fantasy of having a menage a trois.
Move to the city alone, or with your gf of 2 years, Leyla. Jenny might just be using the both of you as a free ticket to move to the city. Not good. You'll crash and burn. As I said in your other thread, Jenny could move to the city to her own place. You could visit her, date her, see where this is going. Moving in with someone after 2 months of dating is just, excuse me, stupid.
