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jstarr

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I stumbled upon this group looking to define my current life choices. I'm Jenn, 42, married to a man, but feeling strong desires to venture into ENM/poly world. We have had many encounters of play with others, all female, but currently discussing more serious relationships with others. (We keep saying bonding with other people but that's just because we don't know the term that would extend sexual encounters to emotional ones i guess) Just here to read about other's experiences and understand what the pros and cons might be and explore various dynamics that may be available. Maybe find some friends to bounce ideas off of and learn best practices on how to communicate desires and boundaries.
So, yeah. Hello all!
 
I stumbled upon this group looking to define my current life choices. I'm Jenn, 42, married to a man, but feeling strong desires to venture into ENM/poly world. We have had many encounters of play with others, all female, but currently discussing more serious relationships with others. We keep saying bonding with other people, but that's just because we don't know the term that would extend sexual encounters to emotional ones, I guess.
To me, I'd say you are looking to move beyond casual (group?) sex to actual polyamory. One may be polysexual, though, but remain monoamorous. That is, if you fall in love with a new person, you fall out of love with the previous established partner. Do you and your husband now plan to actually date others separately? Do you both feel capable of managing more than one independent relationship, and loving more than one?

You might want to get the book Opening Up to learn more about the differences between swinging or casual sex, and polyamory (multiple loves). It also offers plenty of advice about best poly practices, based on experiences of actual polyamorists. (There's no need to reinvent the wheel.)
Just here to read about other's experiences and understand what the pros and cons might be and explore various dynamics that may be available, maybe find some friends to bounce ideas off of and learn best practices on how to communicate desires and boundaries. Hello all!
Hi! We're all friends here. Go ahead and post about anything you want to share or ask in our Relationships section.

Check out Golden Nuggets for reading resources and a list of merged archived threads on a large number of polyamory topics.
 
Greetings Jenn,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

Polyamory definitely has to do with emotional connections, falling in love, romance and whatnot. It sounds like you have experiences with play partners, but are just at the beginning of your journey into poly. This is an exciting time for you, you are at the beginning of a new world. There's a lot to learn about poly, so read and post a lot on these threads and boards. You can definitely find new friends here.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter" :)

Notes:

There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!

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Welcome aboard!
 
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