midnightnails
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My husband and I have been married for a decade. We have several children together and our relationship is a good 9/10
If we had less children it would probably be 10/10 haha
Our sex life is anything but boring and has remained highly active. We are very open. This is not an area in which we are lacking or trying to spice up. The only things we consider big no nos are: Bodily stuff (ew), underage, animals.. You know the big ones and adding a third person has always been a no.
I am demisexual though and my preference is not male nor female, not anything physical but more so intelligence and artistic ability. I however grew up in a super religious environment and so any interest in the same sex was quickly shut down by my peers.i was bullied by my own brothers and classmates for being a lesbian before I'd ever admitted to also liking girls.
I'm happily married and like men just fine and so I've accepted never having been down the road with a female. My husband is plenty sufficient. I will count myself lucky to have him by my side until we die. I have no regrets
But he's been pointing out how I still suppress my interest in females and he's been encouraging me to travel down this road. Originally he said he just liked the idea of watching (typical. ugh. At least he was honest haha) but after we discussed the fact that random sex is gross to me and it would have to be a relationship, he was still into the idea.
It was discussed in detail as much as we could think to talk about. He would have no other relationship and no part with this third person, but I would. They would of course preferably be friends but I don't like the idea of sharing and he says he doesn't want (or need) to be shared. Maybe after going down this road I'll open up to the idea but to me it's wild that he trusts me like this. I mean I trust myself, I have ample self control and honesty but I don't know if I could do this if the roles were reversed.
He says he sees what I missed and has no doubt of his place with me so he's not insecure.
Being demisexual I've literally had only one person I've allowed to even come close to becoming an interest since I met him and I shut it down (finding someone will take time haha) so he's never had an issue with trusting me.
We have discussed that he may never be able to watch what was taking place because it's not just me but a third person and he was notably saddened by the thought but still encouraging of the entire ordeal.
So I'm in my mid 30's with several crazy kids and a amazing husband and am about to, for the first time in my life, swing for the other team as well.
We are taking it ridiculously slow and have given each other the chance to say time out or stop at any time so... Wish us luck and any advice is always welcome.
If we had less children it would probably be 10/10 haha
Our sex life is anything but boring and has remained highly active. We are very open. This is not an area in which we are lacking or trying to spice up. The only things we consider big no nos are: Bodily stuff (ew), underage, animals.. You know the big ones and adding a third person has always been a no.
I am demisexual though and my preference is not male nor female, not anything physical but more so intelligence and artistic ability. I however grew up in a super religious environment and so any interest in the same sex was quickly shut down by my peers.i was bullied by my own brothers and classmates for being a lesbian before I'd ever admitted to also liking girls.
I'm happily married and like men just fine and so I've accepted never having been down the road with a female. My husband is plenty sufficient. I will count myself lucky to have him by my side until we die. I have no regrets
But he's been pointing out how I still suppress my interest in females and he's been encouraging me to travel down this road. Originally he said he just liked the idea of watching (typical. ugh. At least he was honest haha) but after we discussed the fact that random sex is gross to me and it would have to be a relationship, he was still into the idea.
It was discussed in detail as much as we could think to talk about. He would have no other relationship and no part with this third person, but I would. They would of course preferably be friends but I don't like the idea of sharing and he says he doesn't want (or need) to be shared. Maybe after going down this road I'll open up to the idea but to me it's wild that he trusts me like this. I mean I trust myself, I have ample self control and honesty but I don't know if I could do this if the roles were reversed.
He says he sees what I missed and has no doubt of his place with me so he's not insecure.
Being demisexual I've literally had only one person I've allowed to even come close to becoming an interest since I met him and I shut it down (finding someone will take time haha) so he's never had an issue with trusting me.
We have discussed that he may never be able to watch what was taking place because it's not just me but a third person and he was notably saddened by the thought but still encouraging of the entire ordeal.
So I'm in my mid 30's with several crazy kids and a amazing husband and am about to, for the first time in my life, swing for the other team as well.
We are taking it ridiculously slow and have given each other the chance to say time out or stop at any time so... Wish us luck and any advice is always welcome.
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