Marcus
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Ignore me. I didn't see this until after I'd posted.
He won’t let me date anyone
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Ignore me. I didn't see this until after I'd posted.
Christine6
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I wanted to come back here to thank everyone for their time in reading and responding. After a lot of soul searching I left. It’s been 20 days of no contact and I’m feeling... lighter. It’s not easy and I knew it wouldn’t be. I didn’t realize how much I missed alone time. I find solitude beneficial to healing. Then again I’m an introvert and now that the dust has settled I can settle.
I don’t know that I would choose polyamory again. Or to be with a polyamorous partner. I think it’s too soon to make any decisions. I’ve got a lot of soul searching to do and I hope I can come by and help other people from time to time. I’m grateful I found this forum when I did. It gave me that boost of strength I needed when I needed it most. Hopefully I will pay it forward somehow.
I don’t know that I would choose polyamory again. Or to be with a polyamorous partner. I think it’s too soon to make any decisions. I’ve got a lot of soul searching to do and I hope I can come by and help other people from time to time. I’m grateful I found this forum when I did. It gave me that boost of strength I needed when I needed it most. Hopefully I will pay it forward somehow.
Break ups are never fun, but in this case it sounded like it needed to happen since you knew deep down this was not a healthy dynamic.
So good for you in making a firm decision. I am glad you are benefitting from time on your own, feeling lighter, and starting to heal.
I hope the healing time for you continues in the way that you need.
GL!
Galagirl
So good for you in making a firm decision. I am glad you are benefitting from time on your own, feeling lighter, and starting to heal.
I hope the healing time for you continues in the way that you need.
GL!
Galagirl
Take care of yourself. I know it's tough to leave a 24/7 relationship. Do you have support lined up?
I hope you remember if you do get involved in another serious D/s relationship, that it doesn't have to be that way. Healthy D/s needs to take into consideration the wants and needs of BOTH parties involved, even if that's done in such a way as to be decided by the D type. I always say that my partners take care of me on my terms, and I take care of them also on my terms. But if I wasn't caring for them in the way they needed, if we hadn't negotiated what will make them happy in a relationship, then it wouldn't work.
You will be okay. One day at a time.
I hope you remember if you do get involved in another serious D/s relationship, that it doesn't have to be that way. Healthy D/s needs to take into consideration the wants and needs of BOTH parties involved, even if that's done in such a way as to be decided by the D type. I always say that my partners take care of me on my terms, and I take care of them also on my terms. But if I wasn't caring for them in the way they needed, if we hadn't negotiated what will make them happy in a relationship, then it wouldn't work.
You will be okay. One day at a time.