bumblebean
New member
Hello! Please call me Bean. I use they/them pronouns.
I'm a non-binary nerd that's over 40, but doesn't feel it. I enjoy playing tabletop roleplaying games (d&d, pathfinder, etc), some video games (wow, acnh), reading queer sci-fi and fantasy, and doing outdoorsy things like camping and hiking. I'm an avid gardener and would love to have a micro farm on my 1 acre lot.
This summer/fall I'm building a workshop, establishing some garden beds, and talking my wife into getting chickens in the spring. I'm also hoping to get back into sewing this winter so I can work on a LARP/Renfaire costume.
And between all that my wife and I are dipping our toes back into Polyamory. We actually met through a poly relationship 14 years ago, but have been monogamous for the last 12 years. That initial poly relationship wasn't a great experience aside from meeting my wife from it, and we are both treading lightly into this new foray.
Our decision to try poly again stems from a major libido mismatch, and both having needs that we have tried and failed to meet for each other. Due to health issues and pain on her end my wife is no longer interested or frankly able to have a sexual relationship. She's also finding that she is more interested in queerplatonic relationships and relationship anarchy these days.
Meanwhile thanks to starting testosterone as part of my transition my already high libido has kinda gone through the roof. I'm hoping to find a way to navigate that. I'm not applying too many labels to myself yet, but I have been happy both in poly and mono relationships in the past. I'm pretty extroverted, but tapped out easily by drama and some social anxiety, so I tend to take things slow.
We are doing a lot of reading (just finished Polysecure) and a lot of listening (have I downloaded all of Multiamory yet? Maybe). Neither of us have other paramours in sight right now, but we are actively building a secure base to start from.
Anyway! I'm glad to be here and I'm looking forward to getting to know folks and chatting. It's nice to return to the forum format as well. Feels like coming home after the rat race that is current social media.
I'm a non-binary nerd that's over 40, but doesn't feel it. I enjoy playing tabletop roleplaying games (d&d, pathfinder, etc), some video games (wow, acnh), reading queer sci-fi and fantasy, and doing outdoorsy things like camping and hiking. I'm an avid gardener and would love to have a micro farm on my 1 acre lot.
This summer/fall I'm building a workshop, establishing some garden beds, and talking my wife into getting chickens in the spring. I'm also hoping to get back into sewing this winter so I can work on a LARP/Renfaire costume.
And between all that my wife and I are dipping our toes back into Polyamory. We actually met through a poly relationship 14 years ago, but have been monogamous for the last 12 years. That initial poly relationship wasn't a great experience aside from meeting my wife from it, and we are both treading lightly into this new foray.
Our decision to try poly again stems from a major libido mismatch, and both having needs that we have tried and failed to meet for each other. Due to health issues and pain on her end my wife is no longer interested or frankly able to have a sexual relationship. She's also finding that she is more interested in queerplatonic relationships and relationship anarchy these days.
Meanwhile thanks to starting testosterone as part of my transition my already high libido has kinda gone through the roof. I'm hoping to find a way to navigate that. I'm not applying too many labels to myself yet, but I have been happy both in poly and mono relationships in the past. I'm pretty extroverted, but tapped out easily by drama and some social anxiety, so I tend to take things slow.
We are doing a lot of reading (just finished Polysecure) and a lot of listening (have I downloaded all of Multiamory yet? Maybe). Neither of us have other paramours in sight right now, but we are actively building a secure base to start from.
Anyway! I'm glad to be here and I'm looking forward to getting to know folks and chatting. It's nice to return to the forum format as well. Feels like coming home after the rat race that is current social media.
