Hello everyone!


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Greetings, I’m happy I stumbled onto this group. I am male, married to a wonderful woman for 20 years. I discovered my poly self a few years ago, falling for a girl we both knew. She turned out to be a narcissist, liar, and cheat, so it ended badly. But, it made me see that I truly have 2 spots in my heart for romantic love. And exactly two. I’ve asked myself if there could ever me 3, and that seems as impossible as I suppose 2 would seem to a monogamist! My wife and I have been swingers for about 10 years now, so we are already very open with each other about everything. Successful swingers are great communicators. About 18 months ago i met virtually (due to Covid) a girl who fell for me, as I did for her, head over heels. I love them both with my whole heart, even though the math doesn’t work, lol. They are both bisexual, but not romantically involved. So, i am the hinge of a “V”. I feel I’ve always been this way, the realization of it felt like an awakening, a “coming out of the closet” experience. The new girl, E, is perfectly happy with this arrangement. She’s never been big on marriage, and is so happy to have found a man who cares for her and will stick around. My wife, C, is more just accepting this in me. She understands this is the way I am, sees how happy I am with both girls in my life. But is cautious because of the pain the previous girl caused me. She doesn’t want to see me hurt. But E is such a different person. Honest, very loving, and ready to have a happy life with us both.
I'm anxious to get into some discussions here. I’ve done a lot of self-examination about this. Thank you for reading this far! -T


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Greetings JungleTodd,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

I am in a V myself, only it is MFM and I am one of the "legs." It sounds like you have a pretty sweet arrangement, you love both of these women very much, and are having a much better experience (obviously) than you did with the narcissist. I'm glad you could join us; anything you want to discuss, just let us know!

Kevin T., "official greeter" :)


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