Intro for poly
I started this as a Big bad dom giving my girlfriend to my geeky friends while making her bring me all her friends. I realized somewhere in the middle of all this that she was running the show, pulling me along, it really was me loving to watch her in the throws of pleasure and that I was in fact giving the men to her and her friends.
I am one of the sweet, empathic, romantic doms who is a faux sadist, because I get off on a masochist's excitement. As a dominant, I am well aware that the submissive's needs are the center of the dynamic and one can only hope to find that submissive, whose kink matches yours.
My ideal is likely a small tribe, what I refer to as a Circle. So not "open marriage" just more of a group of men and women who love one another. I think women need those close female friendships, but also the variety a group of men provide. I think of monogamy as more of an emotional pair bond rather than an exclusive sexual thing.
I tend to prefer petite small breasted bi women who are highly intelligent, strong willed and submissive without being doormats. I am highly sapiosexual, so the smart ugly girl is prettier to me than the vapid NYC model. A-cup, with small nipples goes to the front of the line, but the large breasted, big skinned girl is not going to hear anything disparaging from me. If I cannot find something to love about her, the fault is mine. I will not lie and say I love her big tits, but instead focus on those things I do find attractive about her. My praise will be truthful and sincere.
I will also be brutally honest when I critique someone, but I do not think a sissy needs to act like a man, but rather that the sissy needs to make sure the seams in his stockings are straight!
While not active bisexual myself, I am both bi friendly and open to bisexual relationships, just very few men are attractive to me. Those that are have always been submissive, but oddly alpha or confident men, I guess I am saying not really sissies. Again, I like sissies. Happy to have them around and order them around, even enjoy the act of ordering them to clean me, but it is far more an Alpha defining the rank of the members within the pack.
I am homosexual friendly. I have had homosexual friends all my life and have a lesbian sister, plus all her friends.
Not a big fan of right wing Christian anal rententives, though the pervert in me does love to cuckold them, big plus if we can have a fem domme with a crop and large strap on to assist. My favorite answer to "Have you found Jesus?" Was taught to me by my mother who always said, "Why no. Have you lost him again?"
I tend because of my unique brain and personality find myself Top Dog, but encourage alpha behavior in the other men around me. I believe in abundance, so there is always a Top Dog spot in some form, like running a company or being the guy everyone goes to for something. Being Top Dog is not an ego issue for me, just seems to be where I wind up.
I was born in NYC and grew up there, coast of Connecticut and on a rural farm in northern New England (all at the same time). Professions (not in any order): professional masseur, farmer, designed and built houses, same with cars, health consultant, truck driver, pimp (was surrounded by a circle of women who all had the same fantasy and I submitted to their need to serve. My clothing was more three piece Brooks Brothers, before it became a chain store. Oh my.), writer, financial analyst for mergers and acquisitions, tennis pro, teacher, graphics designer, hypnotherapist, neuromuscular specialist and start-up specialist (mainly assisting women in setting up their own companies).
Bleeding heart liberal, I work now helping organize impoverished women in third world countries set up their own fair trade businesses from source to end product to overseas sales.
I have some formal training in brain sciences, psychology (which my daughter who is currently studying finds terribly amusing, saying "I cannot believe some of the things you guys thought back then", but in my defense, we only had stone axes and they were in short supply.)
I hate horror movies. Like action thrillers and love chick flicks. Give me a tear jerking romantic comedy any day. (Daughters used to snigger when young as Papa and Mama sniffled and openly wept during the mushy parts)
I like all types of music, but when we get into rap it had better be great, smart and not misogynistic. Techno is for dancing, but I can dance to near anything as it is my main form of exercise. Big band and swing jazz are my childhood. Not a big fan of opera, but love most ballet, not to mention submissive, masochistic ballerinas. Listen to a lot of ballads from old school Judy Collins and Linda Ronstadt to Seiko Matsuda, Urban Zappaka and Wang Fey-Fish Leong. CW, but tend to go more Dixie Chicks, Taylor Swift or Commander Cody and his Lost Planet Airmen.
When younger most of my lovers were older, with plenty my age mixed in. At 22, my lover was a 62 year old French woman. As I aged, my lovers have gone in the other direction. I rarely find a woman under thirty to have enough depth, but of course right as I say that I'll meet some 18 year old with a bitching 60s record collection, who quotes Nietzsche, Fritz Perles and Ram Dass, while creating a dynamic "Daddy teach me everything" while never saying the word Daddy once. She will invariably be followed by a 42 year old who breathlessly utters Daddy and baby girl in nearly every sentence.
I am a racist, but again I think this might be a bit like my faux sadist. I had a few black slaves in Africa. In each case they chose me and convinced me no White man could be powerful without a good and devoted black slave to serve him. They even proved their point.
I soon after returning to NYC met a young black girl into degradation and found how uncomfortable I was, until one of my very empathetic Lilly white slaves pointed out, this was NOT about me, but about her and she was far safer being dragged through the fire by me than some real live redneck racist.
My wife was Japanese. I think I have had lovers from most parts, cultures and religion of the world except the wilds of the Amazon and Borneo. Half of these loving and tender, half BDSM in some form or another. So much poly, I should change my name to ester. (Yes, made me groan too.)
I try to humbly project that I am better than everyone else, while honestly knowing what I know about myself, would divorce me and not even give me custody of the rats.
And as you can see, I have no sense of humor.
I started this as a Big bad dom giving my girlfriend to my geeky friends while making her bring me all her friends. I realized somewhere in the middle of all this that she was running the show, pulling me along, it really was me loving to watch her in the throws of pleasure and that I was in fact giving the men to her and her friends.
I am one of the sweet, empathic, romantic doms who is a faux sadist, because I get off on a masochist's excitement. As a dominant, I am well aware that the submissive's needs are the center of the dynamic and one can only hope to find that submissive, whose kink matches yours.
My ideal is likely a small tribe, what I refer to as a Circle. So not "open marriage" just more of a group of men and women who love one another. I think women need those close female friendships, but also the variety a group of men provide. I think of monogamy as more of an emotional pair bond rather than an exclusive sexual thing.
I tend to prefer petite small breasted bi women who are highly intelligent, strong willed and submissive without being doormats. I am highly sapiosexual, so the smart ugly girl is prettier to me than the vapid NYC model. A-cup, with small nipples goes to the front of the line, but the large breasted, big skinned girl is not going to hear anything disparaging from me. If I cannot find something to love about her, the fault is mine. I will not lie and say I love her big tits, but instead focus on those things I do find attractive about her. My praise will be truthful and sincere.
I will also be brutally honest when I critique someone, but I do not think a sissy needs to act like a man, but rather that the sissy needs to make sure the seams in his stockings are straight!
While not active bisexual myself, I am both bi friendly and open to bisexual relationships, just very few men are attractive to me. Those that are have always been submissive, but oddly alpha or confident men, I guess I am saying not really sissies. Again, I like sissies. Happy to have them around and order them around, even enjoy the act of ordering them to clean me, but it is far more an Alpha defining the rank of the members within the pack.
I am homosexual friendly. I have had homosexual friends all my life and have a lesbian sister, plus all her friends.
Not a big fan of right wing Christian anal rententives, though the pervert in me does love to cuckold them, big plus if we can have a fem domme with a crop and large strap on to assist. My favorite answer to "Have you found Jesus?" Was taught to me by my mother who always said, "Why no. Have you lost him again?"
I tend because of my unique brain and personality find myself Top Dog, but encourage alpha behavior in the other men around me. I believe in abundance, so there is always a Top Dog spot in some form, like running a company or being the guy everyone goes to for something. Being Top Dog is not an ego issue for me, just seems to be where I wind up.
I was born in NYC and grew up there, coast of Connecticut and on a rural farm in northern New England (all at the same time). Professions (not in any order): professional masseur, farmer, designed and built houses, same with cars, health consultant, truck driver, pimp (was surrounded by a circle of women who all had the same fantasy and I submitted to their need to serve. My clothing was more three piece Brooks Brothers, before it became a chain store. Oh my.), writer, financial analyst for mergers and acquisitions, tennis pro, teacher, graphics designer, hypnotherapist, neuromuscular specialist and start-up specialist (mainly assisting women in setting up their own companies).
Bleeding heart liberal, I work now helping organize impoverished women in third world countries set up their own fair trade businesses from source to end product to overseas sales.
I have some formal training in brain sciences, psychology (which my daughter who is currently studying finds terribly amusing, saying "I cannot believe some of the things you guys thought back then", but in my defense, we only had stone axes and they were in short supply.)
I hate horror movies. Like action thrillers and love chick flicks. Give me a tear jerking romantic comedy any day. (Daughters used to snigger when young as Papa and Mama sniffled and openly wept during the mushy parts)
I like all types of music, but when we get into rap it had better be great, smart and not misogynistic. Techno is for dancing, but I can dance to near anything as it is my main form of exercise. Big band and swing jazz are my childhood. Not a big fan of opera, but love most ballet, not to mention submissive, masochistic ballerinas. Listen to a lot of ballads from old school Judy Collins and Linda Ronstadt to Seiko Matsuda, Urban Zappaka and Wang Fey-Fish Leong. CW, but tend to go more Dixie Chicks, Taylor Swift or Commander Cody and his Lost Planet Airmen.
When younger most of my lovers were older, with plenty my age mixed in. At 22, my lover was a 62 year old French woman. As I aged, my lovers have gone in the other direction. I rarely find a woman under thirty to have enough depth, but of course right as I say that I'll meet some 18 year old with a bitching 60s record collection, who quotes Nietzsche, Fritz Perles and Ram Dass, while creating a dynamic "Daddy teach me everything" while never saying the word Daddy once. She will invariably be followed by a 42 year old who breathlessly utters Daddy and baby girl in nearly every sentence.
I am a racist, but again I think this might be a bit like my faux sadist. I had a few black slaves in Africa. In each case they chose me and convinced me no White man could be powerful without a good and devoted black slave to serve him. They even proved their point.
I soon after returning to NYC met a young black girl into degradation and found how uncomfortable I was, until one of my very empathetic Lilly white slaves pointed out, this was NOT about me, but about her and she was far safer being dragged through the fire by me than some real live redneck racist.
My wife was Japanese. I think I have had lovers from most parts, cultures and religion of the world except the wilds of the Amazon and Borneo. Half of these loving and tender, half BDSM in some form or another. So much poly, I should change my name to ester. (Yes, made me groan too.)
I try to humbly project that I am better than everyone else, while honestly knowing what I know about myself, would divorce me and not even give me custody of the rats.
And as you can see, I have no sense of humor.
