Hello, poly curious here

[Lucas Flow]

Well hello,

So let me start. I've been married for 3 years. We went into this with clear idea to open up when we'd built a solid relation. But now I see it's not gonna happen. We've try different approaches to conversation, support, trips, and mentoring. No differences, She is full time in monogamy now. I get the ultimatum: stay with me in mono or we need to divorce.

So here I am struggling to find any perspective on any of the possible decisions that would not be harmful and actually lead to happiness. There is a little one with us, a 1-year old, awesome boy.

So I definitely have some ideas of how to make it awesome. I just spend too much time in my own mind and need to meet my ideas with reality, poly reality, with how awesome and demanding it is. If you feel triggered by this, feel free to say hello. I'm here for meaningful and exciting conversation.

A bit about me: 39, entrepreneur, adventure sports, Imagineer.

I feel polyamorous at heart, always have. But I live in a world built on monogamy, and it’s never felt quite right for me.

I’m here to explore what’s real: can we build deep, meaningful relations, with freedom of love, location, and experience? Can it stand the test of time?

I’m not chasing casual. I’m exploring conscious. I value presence over possession. Love without cages. Devotion without control. And i really wanna make the most of this life.

I’m drawn to raw, honest and exciting conversations, expansive minds, and wild hearts.

Let’s see what we can create. Let's have a conversation that will make us feel alive.

 

[kdt26417]

Greetings Lucas Flow,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

It complicates things that you have a child, but maybe you could shoot for an amicable divorce and friendly coparenting? In doing so, both of you could pursue the lovestyles that you really want. It sounds like she wants something more traditional. You want something more progressive. You both want these things and can have them, just not as a married couple. Good luck and I hope I can help.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

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[Ruby_Paige]

Well hello

I'm married since 3 years. We went in this with clear idea to open up when we build solid relation. But now I see it's not gonna happen. We try diferent aproach to conversation, support, trips, and mentoring. No diferences, She is full time in monogamy now. I get the ultimatum: stay with me in mono or we need to divorce. So here I am struggeling to find any perspective on any of the possible decision that would not be harmfull and actually lead to happiness. There is a little one with us, 1-year old, awesome boy.
So... Feel free to say hello.
Im here for meaningfull and exciting conversation.

A bit about me:
39, Enterpreneur, adventure sports, Imagineer.

I feel polyamorous at heart — always have. But I live in a world built on monogamy. I’m here to explore what’s real: can we build deep, meaningful relations, with freedom of love, location, and experience? Can it stand the test of time? I’m not chasing casual — I’m exploring conscious. I value presence over possession. Love without cages. Devotion without control. And i really wanna make the most of this life. I’m drawn to raw, honest and exciting conversations, expansive minds, and wild hearts. Let’s see what we can create — let's have a conversation that will make us feel alive.

I’ve never been one for cages or constraints—unless they’re part of the play. There’s something far more tempting about freedom, but a little restraint can be fun, too. So, are you the type to chase the unknown? What hidden desires are you yearning to explore? Whisper them to me—I might follow.

 

[Lucas Flow]

Greetings Lucas Flow,
Welcome to our forum. Please feel free to lurk, browse, etc.

It complicates things that you have a child, but maybe you could shoot for an amicable divorce and friendly coparenting? In doing so, both of you could pursue the lovestyles that you really want. It sounds like she wants something more traditional. You want something more progressive. You both want these things and can have them, just not as a married couple. Good luck and I hope I can help.

Sincerely,
Kevin T., "official greeter"

Notes:

There's a *lot* of good info in Golden Nuggets. Have a look!

Please read through the guidelines if you haven't already.

Note: You needn't read every reply to your posts, especially if someone posts in a disagreeable way. Given the size and scope of the site it's hard not to run into the occasional disagreeable person. Please contact the mods if you do (or if you see any spam), and you can block the person if you want.

If you have any questions about the board itself, please private-message a mod and they'll do their best to help.

Welcome aboard!

Hey Kevin, thanks for welcome greetings. I keep that in mind

 

[Magdlyn]

I am not sure if this is an introduction, a way to discuss certain problems with trying to create polyamory in your life (since your wife is mono and wants monogamy, and you have a toddler), or a dating ad.

Can you explain?